Implementation And Enforcement Of The New Warning System

[Sammy]

As Nicolette said

A warning is an opportunity to learn and improve and not an attack on you.

I guess it is a matter of the members reframing how they look at this forum and the rules. The forum exists to help and we are here voluntarily. It is a "society" within which we have chosen to reside. All societies have rules for the safety and welfare of all.

 

[anthony]

All of the warnings have been reworded and significantly changed to "warm and fuzzy" approach.

 

[Sandstone]

Thank you!

Warm and fuzzy sounds like sharing a bath with the cat - almost desirable

 

[Nicolette]

You will now receive "Notifications" instead of 'Warnings'. :)

 

[angel2write]

I really do like the new notifications.

 

[Grama-Herc]

I've been on this forum since ? 2007 ? I think but have not been online for quite a while. I just had to laugh when I read the content of this post. Seems things never change. This issue has been going on FOREVER! ! I fell into the "taking a warning personal trap"! Got all pissy and hurt, but recovered and continued with a better understanding of the system and rules.

We are all adults and really need to start acting like adults. This forum is to helpful and important to a lot of people to start abusing the staff who are only here to help us.

Grow up people, OK! ps. Thank You Anthony, Nicolette and all the mods for allowing me to have this outlet for my issues.

 

[ms spock]

Thank you!

Warm and fuzzy sounds like sharing a bath with the cat - almost desirable

I had a friend who used to wash her cat. I just used to watch in amazement. I know way off tangent but surely that is sobering for us all. None of us are washing cats as far as I know. ( I think that this is a good thing and yes I am very overtired and probably should be in bed sleeping. The cat story clearly demonstrates that.)

Negotiation has been occurring and language is changed and people are having input and I think that is great.

Good on you folks. Working as a community is not always easy but you are doing it. Good Show!

We are all adults and really need to start acting like adults.

This is a serious question (cat stories aside) how do you act like an adult? Where are the main pointers?

Do you know? Did someone share that with you. I am serious. I have been trying to google this without much success. What is a person? What makes them an adult? What are adult responsibilities? How do you find out what they are. What are the characteristics of an adult?

ms spock

You will now receive "Notifications" instead of 'Warnings'. :)

Awesome Nicolette!

You are pretty groovy!

That is a great shift in language.

Much appreciated,
ms spock

All of the warnings have been reworded and significantly changed to "warm and fuzzy" approach.

You are a pretty cool dude anthony!

Very kind and gracious indeed.

Much appreciated,
ms spock

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[a3a2]

Thank you!

Warm and fuzzy sounds like sharing a bath with the cat - almost desirable

I don't think you have ever seen a cat get bathed. LOL. The last time I did, I ended up in urgent care.

 

[Grama-Herc]

Guess I have lost my sense od himor cuz I am failing to understand why this thread has gotten so ridiculous and out of control. Just my opinion is all. I may not be able to describe what an adult is or how to become one, but I know one thing the stupid stuff going on in this thread IS NOT being an adult.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

It SEEMS like some are on their high horse, condemning those of us who have had adverse reactions to these warnings. The truth of the matter is that as abuse victims, many of us are triggered by perceived criticism and reprimand. Maybe those of you who judge us for our reactions will remember this. After all, *we* don't judge *you* for your triggers, now do we?...

Yes, I understand the rules.

No, this isn't a slam on admins or mods.

More like a "just sayin'" kind of thing toward other members.

 

[simplekindofgirl]

This is a stupid question, really. But- how do we know when we have been warned or notified? I keep hearing of the notifications previously known as warnings, but nobody has discussed how you receive them. Is it as posted above looking something like this, at the end of a post:

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SOL- I can relate to that thought. A person who can not focus may not be able to edit his/her own text. A person who becomes triggered my not be able to get the words out properly and hence types errors. I have also seen where Mods are very lenient with people who tend to suffer in this way more frequently than other persons- they obviously do pay attention to who is/are suffering (or are not native english speakers) and who is/are simply being lazy about typing.

I also understand that there needs to be rules for format specifically because so many of us do have such a problem with focus. If the text is not readable, mixed in with a persons lack of focus, then it becomes a source of anxiety for a lot of people (myself not excluded). I skip posts that are not readable because I know that I can not usually focus well enough to interpret them. If it is a persons (particularly a person who I am acquainted with) diary, I make the extra effort to focus because of the intention of the diary itself. I am thankful for the mods because they assist in keeping things readable, as well as for the rules that require to keep things formatted for readability.

 

[ms spock]

The truth of the matter is that as abuse victims, many of us are triggered by perceived criticism and reprimand.

This is true ScaredOfLonely,

I have had a lot of practice with feedback and constructive criticism so when you learn a skill or are learning a skill then you forget how daunting it was at the begining. (Well I forgot how daunting it is to be at the beginning of that learning journey.)

I did not mean to be insensitive to people triggered by the new system.

It is just for me, it seems like I get so few things right at the moment - well I get perhaps a lot excited even when I am half way there.

Sometimes I get enthusiastic and get carried away.

I also have big problems in real life (though the life here is the most real to me life at this time) with perceived criticism and reprimand and become a bit of a people pleaser and let myself be ruled by fear and intimidation which I am working on hard to deal with.

So it would be hard to receive feedback and feel upset and got at and then for people not to show understanding and a bit of sympathy.

I am sorry for my part in that. The intent was not to hurt other people's feelings or such like.

ms spock