Member Sea & Others

[anthony]

It is... and all forums experience the same things, just more this sites topic that can add fuel to the fire based on members mental health status at any given time due to PTSD or a number of other mental health disorders.

 

[mamachick]

This is the first time I have been on any forum and it has been a year already. I am so appreciative of all the information and support I have received. I realize how hard you work to keep things running smoothly and prevent drama, although I really do not understand all that occurred and dont need to.

I have a trust for Anthony and Nicolette's decisions and thats the bottom line. I dont always agree with others but have always felt safe to agree to disagree. I think it takes a lot of kahoona's to challenge Anthonys authority in this way (grouping/cohesion behind his back). Others are always welcome to start their own forum and make their own rules. It has the flavour of the crisis junkie to me, meddling in others business prevents us from looking at ourselves.

I appreciate that Anthony would prefer for this to cease rather than all the gratitude. Since I have no control over and am not involved in this drama, so I just want to say thanks for handling promptly, Im sorry that others insist on stirring up crap, and appreciate all your hard work and aggravation you must endure.

 

[Jen93]

Those who hang around in the chatroom and aren't legitimately participating upon the site, with actual legitimate posts and discussion versus nonsense one line posts or profile posts, are also being cleaned out rapidly.

Would you please define "legitimate posts"? I have a tendency to "hang around chat" sometimes, but I only do so if there are other people there, and I do try my best to participate in the forum, but sometimes I'm worried that I'm not as active as I should be, and I DID get the feeling that I had been taking advantage of the chat function, but I'm trying to be more active and participate more.

 

[KP the nut]

Hi Jen. Anthony is referring to folk not actively participating within the forum. Not introducing themselves or posting and then hanging out in chat.

 

[Jen93]

Oh! I know those kind of people. Yeah, I get it now. Thanks KP.

 

[anthony]

To dismiss further or assumed thoughts about some recent bans to members associated to the initial issue, I want to highlight that the recent members banned were not banned for being friends of Sea. They were banned for continuing the nonsense behind the scenes.

Kayak and shattered are banned. Some of these members have continued to try and register further accounts, yet those accounts are found and also banned.

I hoped these members would not continue any nonsense, hoping that removing the leaders would stop all the nonsense with some followers. It didn't and nonsense continued. As I had already stated warning members associated to the nonsense to be careful and cut the crap, well... it fell on deaf ears, hence a few further bans were implemented.

I will not tolerate petty, childish nonsense by adults acting like idiots upon this resource. PTSD is an illness, it is not an excuse to be a moron on the very site established to try and help people heal from their trauma and PTSD the disorder.

 

[Jen93]

To dismiss further or assumed thoughts about some recent bans to members associated to the initial issue, I want to highlight that the recent members banned were not banned for being friends of Sea. They were banned for continuing the nonsense behind the scenes.

I think that was the question and worry on everybody's mind... thanks for clearing that up- it's a relief. :)

 

[BigBear]

I want to highlight that the recent members banned were not banned for being friends of Sea.

Honestly, I count that as pretty obvious. I've never made any bones about my being sea's friend, as well as SuperCD's. I still am. If that was a cause for banning, I should have been one of the first to go. I don't think there is any move to ban me however. On the other hand, I can be a friend with someone without cutting the throats of everyone else around me because my friend becomes estranged.

I'll always care about Sea and his family, but those who are still here have to be my first priority...

Bear

 

[4L150N]

I feel safe here, and that's important when dealing with such a delicate subject (PTSD). I have run a f2f support group before, and it's very difficult to manage people at different levels of diagnosis and therapy. The bottom line is that if someone doesn't actually intend to help support themselves or anyone else dealing with this illness, then they shouldn't be here. Period.

ps. I too am now paranoid, but if I wasn't, I probably wouldn't be here either :cP

 

[mamachick]

Once again in the dark-which is fine. Sounds like one person is actually in crisis (sea), which attracks the crisis junkies to keep things going. At any rate -sorry to hear.

 

[Philippa]

I'm very sorry Sea was not able to stay here, but it was clear that he needed more professional help than what is available here. My heart goes out to him, and I had no idea anything was going on behind the scenes until now.

I guess I see it as people really liked him, and wanted him to stay and they let their emotional attachment to helping and 'rescuing' him cloud their judgement about what is best for the forum as a whole.

That's unfortunate for them, as they will now miss out on the support they also need.

When I find myself falling back into the 'rescuer' role, I have to stop and remind myself that I need to first rescue myself, and bring it back home, and leave others to rescue themselves when the time is right for that.

 

[CraftyCath]

I have only just found this thread and feel really upset for you Anthony and all the staff. I often think that there are those who expect staff to be perfect (no body can be) but, that said, rules are rules. They are set to protect staff and members and are pretty obvious.

You all work so hard to provide a site that is professional, friendly and safe. I came here when I was at my lowest point, wanting to take my own life. I haven't yet been here a year and I have been transformed. Not by the site itself but by my own efforts and courage and by the love and support of people here and my own T.

I think some people forget the support they have been given and to have a personal dig at someone, even if you are having a terrible time yourself, is never acceptable on a forum or off it. (I don't use any other forum). I agree with you Anthony. Lies and deception are sickening, I felt queasy just reading this. It is hard when someone behaves like this, you can help people, but you can only help them so far. In the end sometimes you have to take strong action and ban people.

I truly hope that you can recover from this quickly Anthony. You have my support and I know Nicolette will be at your side. Take comfort from your staff and those who truly believe in what you are doing it.

It does and has made a difference in many peoples lives- my own included.

Thank you

CC

(((((Anthony)))))