Wishes And Dreams

[anonymous]

Does anybody else feel consumed by their dreams? I feel that either my ambitions are totally out of whack and harmful to me, or a big part of me is rebelling against ever accomplishing my dreams. PTSD is so big now, I think I have be realistic and know that I have been just chasing an illusion in my head.

 

[piratelady]

I have my dreams and I often find myself sad that I am not moving towards them. I won't accept that I have been chasing an illusion. I won't ever give up. I don't know how, but therapy will help me and in time my dreams may be achievable. It will just take time...maybe a lot of time.

 

[Tanishq]

It's said dreams are great tools and medium through which we can feel that we are really connected with universe.

Normally you will see things in your dreams which you keep thinking every time, day in and day out.
Example: If you keep thinking about buying some specific crystal you love and keep sending out your feeling, then possible you may have dream about it. You may receive clue about it, you may see things regarding that particular crystal.

Take dreams as beautiful thing whether they are good or bad. It's up to us to respond them or not.

No, I don't think they are illusion.

Sometimes I think dream is also one kind of thought and you have choice to accept them or not.

 

[amethist]

Dreams are also way for your mind to process what it can't when your awake.

So good or bad dreams can be healing. I know that sounds a bit crazy, but your mind when awake, shuts out what it does not want to process, then processes it while your alseep.

Nightmares are a way of processing thoughts that your awake mind does not want to recognize, bad as they are.

 

[anonymous]

When I speak of dreams, I mean the type of dream which is like the deepest and most strongest wish or desire inside.

This can manifest itself in a sleeping dream, but I mean by dream is having an ambition and desire to do something in life.

 

[Lucycat]

Amethist, I entirely agree with you.

I had a strange dream last night about acting strange and my brother bringing it to my attention, saying he had called a doctor because I was 'acting mad'.

I woke with this reeling round in my head, and came to acknowledge that I am scared of being 'mental', although T has constantly reassured me that I may be 'emotionally disregulated' and have PTSD but I am not mad.

So, in this case I am sure my brain was processing this concern, and bringing it to my attention. It doesn't make it true or real, just something my mind is still trying to 'work out'.

 

[Lucycat]

Sorry, I realise that this has cross posted and is off thread. Sorry.

In lifetime dreams and wishes, I don't really have any. I guess I should work on that!

 

[heidi]

I think if you still have dreams maybe that's not bad. I feel like the dreams I have are left over from the way I was. I don't have any dreams that feel alive or inspired anymore. They all feel left over.

And I hate that my goals are much more personal to me now. I hate that I no longer yearn to do as much outside of myself.

I think if you still have passion and a desire to do things that's really good.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I don't have dreams, I have goals. Is this odd? I've always been like this. I mean, to me, dreams are some pie-in-the-sky wish that set you up for failure. (But perhaps we view dreams differently, so no offense to anyone who dreams!)

I'm too consumed by trying to get my arse better, trying to become self-sufficient, trying to get the h*$&%& off disability. I don't have time to dream! But maybe that's sad? I mean, my goals are pretty much what most people take for granted.

For example, as a kid some dreamed of being a doctor one day. For me that wouldn't be a dream, that would be a goal. Same with owning my own home, getting married, having kids....All goals, not dreams. I can't even think of anything to dream about...If I want something, its a goal, as in my mind, goals are attainable, dreams, not so much.

 

[anonymous]

I have goals, but I have dreams that are comprised of the goals and even more. My dreams are huge, so they do consume me. I am wondering if it is healthy.

I think if you still have passion and a desire to do things that's really good.

I do, but the passion is kind of confused right now. I wish it wasn't. Before having PTSD I could want things and then do everything to get it. Now I don't even know what I want really. It's not only a lack of focus, I just doubt myself and pretty much hate myself and think I am too worthless to be able to afford having these dreams or goals.

But there is something that I very much deeply want and long for.

 

[Spiderallis]

I wish I knew what it felt like to have dreams? Wanting things is a few steps away from where I am now, I'm working on not feeling guilty for having what I do. Not that I have much, but it's more than I'd be able to ask for.

 

[Muzikluvr]

Last year, I realized all the dreams I'd had been holding onto were already out of reach. I'm old. Too old for some of the things I wanted to do. In fact, my dreams were not even goals because I didn't believe that I could really achieve them. They were tools which helped me see myself as a success, at least until I tried to turn them into goals... at which point, all I saw were obstacles. I developed those tools when I was too young to be exposed to opportunities, while my family was ashamed of me and held me back in some ways... but, I got stuck in the euphoria of dreaming. When I got older, it was easier to dream than to do.

I have a new dream. I am trying not to let that dream become unrealistic, because when I dream big then I realize that if I got stuck at a beginner/intermediate level... because I couldn't achieve the big dream... then I'd be too disappointed. That's when I stop trying. If I can't be great, do I really want to pursue it? That's the question that kills most of my dreams. But, not this one. This dream I can do at any level and feel good about it.

So, I keep it realistic. It's like when coaches say to the press, and their teams... "we're taking it one game at a time."... on their way to winning the championship.

Don't let the dream get too big, because the individual goals and pleasure in accomplishing them will be lost in the euphoria of dreaming the big dream.

It's kind of like watching TV and feeling like you accomplished something when your favorite character accomplishes something... when you get those good feelings that you crave from such an easy task, it decreases your willingness to go out and accomplish something on your own. Getting stuck in living vicariously through others, through characters.... and through day dreams.