Wishes And Dreams

[heidi]

Well, that one thing that you deeply want. You sound like you don't lack clarity there.

 

[anonymous]

but, I got stuck in the euphoria of dreaming. When I got older, it was easier to dream than to do.

Musikluvr, I think this is what I am worrying about happening to me. I know that a lot of my decisions (often bad ones) were based on trying to achieve this dream, and if it was a false dream than I have been chasing something... and maybe the dream was just another technique to run away.

I have a new dream. I am trying not to let that dream become unrealistic, because when I dream big then I realize that if I got stuck at a beginner/intermediate level... because I couldn't achieve the big dream... then I'd be too disappointed. That's when I stop trying. If I can't be great, do I really want to pursue it? That's the question that kills most of my dreams. But, not this one. This dream I can do at any level and feel good about it.

I like this. I guess that is really the most essential part. To feel good in taking small steps and not being an overachiever in that way. Falling into crisis, probably means that there is some measurement of trying too hard.

Don't let the dream get too big, because the individual goals and pleasure in accomplishing them will be lost in the euphoria of dreaming the big dream.

This makes a lot of sense. Thank you.

It's kind of like watching TV and feeling like you accomplished something when your favorite character accomplishes something... when you get those good feelings that you crave from such an easy task, it decreases your willingness to go out and accomplish something on your own. Getting stuck in living vicariously through others, through characters.... and through day dreams.

This is a perfect insight!! Thank you again!

Well, that one thing that you deeply want. You sound like you don't lack clarity there.

Yes thanks heidi, definetly lacking clarity....

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I have wishes and dreams. I want to rebuild my life. I want to have people and social activities and laughter in my life. I am working on it now by replacing the negative with the positive. I have therapy. I will want to join a group. I want to meet other people like me. I am on my way. I know it will take along time to accomplish this but I am determined and i will get there.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I'm confused!

Is the username "Anonymous" an actual username or is it something anyone can post under to be anonymous, like on other forums?

 

[Red Feather]

Premium members can post anonymously. I've blown my cover already. This time it was me. :bag: