How Can I Cope With Triggers

[Katz2]

Just when things are calm, bam it's back, and it has it's claws in me, and when this happens, it takes my breath away, and I'm so lost and scared again, it's always like this at the start, and I thought I could skip and jump past this cos I've been through this a zillion times, when it's like this, I understand why people do the things they do, cos it is so hard, the only good thing about all this is my partner knows I suffers with everything I do, and doesnt get too hurt by what I need to talk about, my focus and trigger is him :cry: at the moment and it HURTS LIKE HELL, I know this isnt normal, because when things are ok with me, I dont have any problems or triggers, I just get on with life stuff. So I feel at the moment I'm at catch 22.

Does anyone have a good way of controlling triggers, I guess other triggers dont hurt as much as the ones I have for my partner, cos I care for him....is that how the triggers hurt so much, wishing them away....you know they dont blooming work.

 

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Are you in therapy? Have you learned CBT skills? If not, these are two very good places to start. CBT will help tackle the negative thought process that accompanies triggers.

 

[Katz2]

I've calmed down!!!! When I panic like I was above, I cant cope, I feel if I can just pour it all out it, it will all go away!!!! I guess I'll just need to go back to the drawing board and jot down some new ways of dealing with the new trigger. Sorry for bombarding everyone with my panic today.

Hi ScaredOfLonely, I have read some OCD books which I have found helpful in the past, I will have a read again...it's funny how fast you forget how to pick yourself up. Thank you

I've managed to take a deep breath :) thank you

Are you in therapy? Have you learned CBT skills? If not, these are two very good places to start. CBT will help tackle the negative thought process that accompanies triggers.

Do you know any good books on the subject?