What To Never Say To A Ptsd Sufferer

[Mandy Tad]

I have been in therapy for a year now and I realize there will always be job opportunites and that therapy is what I need now. It's working for me, I hope you can find something that will work for you too.

Hi Monster1977, I too realized that I need the therapy more, but then I got a call from a company that were very interested in my skills. I decided to take it up, I wanted to look at it as something positive coming my way after a very long time. I am taking Valium and Zoloft to keep me going, I know without it, I am an emotional wreck. My therapist is unhappy with my decision. But I dont want the bullies to know that they won, I will not let them win. I go to work, I dont say much at all there, I just do my job and come home. My manager is really nice, it was like he knew what I am going through, has been very supportive as well. The Valium is keeping my emotions, my thoughts away. I feel nothing and not felt like this for a very long time. I just want to have 1 day where I do not cry, or shake in fright when I have a flashback and the meds are helping me. I dont know if I will last in the job with no meds. So for now this is me. I am fighting it with meds.

 

[DharmaGirl]

Good for you, Mandy! Yay! My T always says - Don't let the f*ckers win. You haven't, that'
s awesome!

 

[Tanishq]

Hey Mandy, that's great. You are facing so many difficulties with attitude to go ahead. Very positive. :)

 

[Mandy Tad]

Thanks Jaret, Monster 1977, Gizmo and everyone out there, thank you for you support. I would not have been able to do this without your kind words and encouragement. It is very difficult, I rather stay at home and feel safe and not have to face anyone or speak with anyone. But I know if I do that it only means I have let the bullies achieve what they set out to do. .. to ruin me. It hurts each day as I know I am not the same anymore, I am so scared as I do not know when the next flashback will happen, it makes me so sick and ill when I have a flashback, its a horrible feeling. I have this constant sense to keep looking over my back and making sure everything I do is right.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Mandy, I am really proud of you. You are proving that they did not win. Just look at what you are accomplishing. I am so happy for you. You are amazing.

 

[Mandy Tad]

Thank you Gizmo, you know I would have not done this without your help. You are the best friend ever.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

You are more than welcome Mandy. I just passed on what I had learned in my own experience. Big hugs.

 

[MissMacD]

I've been told to stop acting like a child, HELLO all of this stuff happened when I was a child. When I get depressed my boyfriend always says "what now, there is always a reason and something that is wrong" as if it is something about my present life that is the problem like I make it up just to piss him off. He doesn't get it why I get depressed over and over again.

At least he puts up with me. Maybe he isn't as understanding as some people but at least he is physically there still and I know it's hard on him.

 

[Shellbell]

When trauma has occurred in childhood, it can cause us later on in adult life to act in a 'childlike' manner. When things happen, it triggers bad childhood memories. It's very hard to deal with. Depression from bad childhood experiences is common too.

Hugs ((((MissMacD))).

 

[Tanishq]

When trauma has occurred in childhood, it can cause us later on in adult life to act in a 'childlike' manner.

When things happen, it triggers bad childhood memories. It's very hard to deal with.

Exactly! This is what happening with me at the moment. Not most of time, but sometimes it happens. It turns into childlike joy.

hahaha. One friend was telling me, I sound more younger than child, almost like toddler. I told him back I am much happier with inner child joyful attitude. It has given me some friends(25-40 mature, happily married and having kids) who understand this. he was shut up and never came back to talk with me.

 

[Tanishq]

Big hug to MissMacD. Please know, your posts are full of maturity, responsibility. I think you will succeed at growing sense of self. :)

 

[Britt.f7]

When I get depressed my boyfriend always says "what now, there is always a reason and something that is wrong" as if it is something about my present life that is the problem like I make it up just to piss him off.

Maybe you can tell him that that response does not help you. That it discredits what you are feeling. That it isn't about him, even though it may effect him. You are not doing this to hurt him. I'm a firm believer that if something is wrong, and you don't say anything, you do not give someone the chance to fix their behavior. I can't fix what I don't know. Of course, I am not saying that it is easy.

I often think that my husband "put's up" with me too. I'm not sure that is so healthy. We all have our baggage. So, at this moment in time, we may be the ones who have a little more to deal with. Think, if he was going through this and you were him, would you stay? It is important to validate our worth. Easier said then done. Unfortunately I know.

I am glad you have someone there to be supportive. I truly wish you well.