What Do You Want From Therapy?

[Pencil]

anxious preoccupied

Abstract
Just read about anxious preoccupied - and I don't relate. Can't find good info on attachment.

 

[Springer80]

Hi, Info on attachment.....The first one is really basic and from the posts before you know this level anyway. Schore's work is the other end of the scale completely and I can't find much in between so far. The last link is not attachment related but a supporter of body work in psychotherapy who champions his work.

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[DLMURL]http://www.lifespanlearn.org/documents/Schore%20Trauma%20and%20dysregulation.pdf[/DLMURL]

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[Pencil]

Hi, Info on attachment.....

Trust you to come up with links, Springer ;) Thanks.

 

[girlshawn]

Have any of you been asked this question and if so, how do you answer?

I get mad at first at this question every single time cause I know after processing all the trauma now I have to tell the therapist what I want. "I want peace you moron" I think I yelled at the last one. He then said "you should write a letter". Really?? WTF!? I was livid at this hot mess. How is writing a letter going to help me process the abonden meant, the emotional an physical abuse dear old mom left me to process? He gave me the clinical reason and I told him he was the fifth therapist to do this. I have shelves of journals, an on line journal dating back to 2000. This may work for some but I'm past this.

I just want peace. I don't want to hind under the covers when no ones home crying because its cold wet and dark and something triggered a panic attack. I don't want to make my 18 year old afraid of the world. I just want to breathe. In my opinion it's a stupid question to ask someone with trauma issues

 

[Pencil]

. "I want peace you moron" I think I yelled at the last one. He then said "you should write a letter". Really?? WTF!? .

Just love it. Thank you for brightening my very dark day. Hope you don't mind that your anger makes me feel better! :cautious:

 

[Pencil]

I think I'm more fearful avoidant. Just goes to show that T2 got that wrong, in addition to a few other things :)

 

[Pencil]

I have strabismus / amblyopia, which means I my eyes were crossed as a child. This was corrected by two operations. I now have amblyopia (lazy eye) which has to be corrected from time to time, much like people taking their cars in for wheel alignment. Any surprise that it is my right eye? I'm all reason. Emotions all over the place. Emotions and reason stay very much distinct. As my left eye is dominant, I'm overly analytical and suppress emotion. Schore's work doesn't specifically address this issue, but all evidence points in the direction of trauma and right hemisphere development that went wonky. Springer, I'm sure you'll find the correct info ;) .

Ok, so I veered off from 'what I want from therapy' to something else altogether. Apologies Pirate, and I'm sure Abstract will take me to task soon :eek:

 

[Pencil]

Ok, I can turn this into 'What I DON'T want from therapy'. What I don't want is EMDR - it would confuse the hell out of my brain, and T. Is this more on-topic? :D

 

[Abstract]

I'm sure Abstract will take me to task soon :eek:

:D:roflmao: I seem to be getting a rep for being a bit challenging! I haven't forgotten you Pencil. Just had my brain go missing. It's a random thing that happens you know. If the thoughts don't happen they there is nothing going on inside there.

There are a couple of links that I had from before that maybe I will stick on here anyway. They aren't what I wanted to say though. I think the "warm" facts rather than the cold facts are usually more helpful. In many ways a little name tag is not that necessary at all.

Just read about anxious preoccupied - and I don't relate. Can't find good info on attachment.

I actually didn't think it fitted from what you were saying before. It seemed to me what you were describing was more likely to be any of the others than that one.

There is one quiz which seems quite good and also fairly simple. [DLMURL]http://dianepooleheller.com/quiz/[/DLMURL]

Ambivalent attachment video

and disorganised attachment [DLMURL]http://www.youtube.com/watch?NR=1&v=rpQtPsuhLzc&feature=endscreen[/DLMURL]. There is one for avoidant too.

I have not read this for a while but had it down as interesting http://www.empty-memories.nl/science/Liotti_Trauma_Attachment.pdf

 

[Tanishq]

Regular flow of support with all willingness, kind and good supportive care, honesty and integrity.

 

[Pencil]

:D:roflmao: I seem to be getting a rep for being a bit challenging!

No, not challenging. You're clear-headed and considerate, and I like that about you.

I haven't forgotten you Pencil. Just had my brain go missing. It's a random thing that happens you know.

I know, but glad you said it, was beginning to feel 'insecure' ;)

I actually didn't think it fitted from what you were saying before. It seemed to me what you were describing was more likely to be any of the others than that one.

Thanks for that. T2 mentioned bpd, and I am adamant that bpd is not a correct dx for me - and I now see that she was seeing my attachment problem as in line with bpd. This is just one more bit of evidence that it is not bpd.

Thanks for the links Abstract!

 

[Pencil]

Now I'm really confused, or would that be disorganised? :D Ok, I agree with you, the label is unimportant, and there is no point in me trying to find out how I have difficulty attaching, as I have no desire for attachment at the moment, and I'm not in therapy.