Things Your Therapist Says That Make You Cringe

[LhasaLover]

Hi,

Okaye... so I am at joint therapy the other day and the T says that I am a hero triumphing over difficult times.

He points out people did the same thing after the stock market crash only to face another war.

I responded, "How very inspiring!"

This T has been very supportive however I do not appreciate these comments. Depression is often coupled with PTSD, so I already know these things. Any material to be used in my negative self talk is not invited or appreciated!

Having a lot of doubt, it is not good when a therapist creates doubt about the treatment you are receiving. It jeopardizes the success of future therapy.

I am allowing you to visit my mind, tread carefully!

 

[madmax]

LhasaLover,

Did you actually speak up or is this you venting and wishing that you said it to "anus"

Off the subject but interesting non the less (I thought of your T): so this guy gets the brilliant idea to put an eel up his ass because he heard something about the gerbil practice and thought this would be a even more pleasurable experience. Long story short: the eel eats threw his colon at some point and then dies. The guy had surgery to remove the specimen and was then charged with animal cruelty- your (T) reminds me of that guy!!!

 

[Hashi]

LL, what was your therapist trying to achieve by saying this to you? Does he think it's helpful??? :confused:

 

[LhasaLover]

LL, what was your therapist trying to achieve by saying this to you? Does he think it's helpful??? :confused:

There's something wrong in this therapy I am becoming convinced. This is a joint session with my father and he has helped me in very practical ways. He now sings my father's praises mostly and tells me I am venting. When I leave, sometimes my anxiety worsens. He tells me how strong and smart I am. I'm sick, this is not about strength. He seems to make excuses lately why my life is going so badly and how most of the world is having a terrible time... minimizing what I am experiencing. I will ask my T about this.

I cannot see my therapist lately and he holds my father accountable and tries to help me but it is not like my own T.

MM, that is very funny! Yes, it is the same T and it seems like stuff he says resonates for a while after I go.

I heard once of someone feeling worse going to their T only to find out that she has lost her own sun in a car accident (he was going for one) and was resentful. While I do not think this person intends malice at all, there's something not right.

I'll have to call Mon to make an appointment with my T. In the meantime I may bring it up in therapy. The family has gone to him before, but since the very first time I went I sensed something that was not right.

 

[madmax]

Sometimes you just have to laugh regardless. Your well being should be your affair not family affair..my opinion :D

 

[I Can Do This]

It seems like objectivity could be what is missing - your T sounds very entrenched in your family. Your T is human and could have lost his objectivity and what you feel is he is taking sides. Just my 2 cents.

 

[madmax]

LL

My wife just informed me that for the first five years following being placed on SSDI I DID NOTHING BUT SLEEP...so forget the question.

Max

 

[Pietro]

It seems like objectivity could be what is missing - your T sounds very entrenched in your family.

I had that happen once with a therapist I'd previously respected very much, during couples therapy with my ex-wife. For whatever reason, she acted preferentially towards my ex, instead of trying to have us negotiate-out our differences ourselves.

This therapist had known my ex for some time, doing individual therapy with her, so there was some history there, I suppose. Still, she didn't either of us any favors by behaving in this way.

 

[LhasaLover]

Hi Pietro, MadMax, ICanDoThis, Hashi,

Thanks for all your input. It reminds me how he alludes to problems he has gone through. He behaves like a coach instead of a psychologist. I suspect he is projecting and wrestling was some issues.

MM, I do with my father to therapy because we had been estranged and I had to come live with him. He can be controlling, but the therapist seems to not recognize the codependency that I am trying to address. I get a lot of responses like, well that's like life, right?! It secretly annoys me a bit that he gets paid as much as my T and he gets away with this.

While I don't have much of a choice otherwise my father and I do not talk it all, the only thing I could do is switch T's for joint therapy. He is advocating that I see my therapist which helps but he seems to focus on me because he thinks I need support.

MadMax, I have a crazy sense of humor, I live to laugh. I'm forever watching comedians. People tell me I am funny and I am not even trying to be.

I just want to get a job and move out of the house and not have to go through all this... It's very frustrating as I have PTSD and have had enough control in my life. At least he is not as malicious as my mother and keeps his temper in check. My mother is still raging on 1.5 years since we stopped speaking.

This T is definitely bugging me I am going to have to talk to my therapist and him in session. Last session he kept saying new medication was the solution and that "there was something psychopharmalogical goin' on with you". I have been working on my medications independently with doctors and I explained there was no magic bullet of a pill. Otherwise, everyone in the world would have a miracle pill! They help, but they don't make you thrilled to be miserable and I cannot afford to be numb. It's annoying, it's like he inferring I need to be drugged more heavily. My doctor who prescribes is conservative and does not prescribes these drug cocktails that some do. I grew up with a drug addict and have no desired to follow in her footsteps. Irresponsible doctors played a great role enabling her addictions so it's something I am not likely to change my mind about.

Next week I have a conflict and I hope and not be able to go. This T has helped me but lately it feels like a broken record, painful to listen to over and over and over... I get there and I don't want to talk. I cannot figure out how to turn these sessions around. I get the feeling this guy is overwhelmed, distracted, maybe at a loss. And he keeps mentioning he just went through something.

 

[Away From The Sun]

I get a lot of responses like, well that's like life, right?! It secretly annoys me a bit that he gets paid as much as my T and he gets away with this.

All I can say is "gross". I was telling one of my previous therapists about my social anxiety surrounding my physical handicap and he gives me a little lecture/pep talk about how "everyone has a handicap". To top it off, the therapist was a white, able-bodied male. I know everyone has "problems" but come on. Needless to say, I dropped him and never went back.

 

[Pietro]

Last session he kept saying new medication was the solution and that "there was something psychopharmalogical goin' on with you".

I agree with you that medication can only do so much. As for as the Joint Therapy T, is he a psychiatrist who can prescribe medication? If not, where does he come-off thinking he can say something like this?! It would be OK if he suggested that you explore medication as an option -- but he just-about diagnosed you. If he's not an MD, that's a serious issue.

Needless to say, I dropped him and never went back.

Good for you. I hate platitudes. :D

 

[nursenurse]

This guy has his animus in his anus. In other words, he's screwed. That session sounds like the Gong Show. Maybe you should be charging him for therapy, sounds like he needs it.