Hello there. Im a first timer so please forgive my ignorance :). Your replies and advice mean so much to me so please feel free to let me know your thoughts and experience.
I had an awful experience 4 years ago with my partners family. They are big fat bullies. They use threats to amplify there suggested power status and if they cant get what they want they throw you away. They made my partner choose between me and them. He would not take his mothers ultimatum so I was bullied and lied about.
They put me in physical danger and verbally abused me. They just hated me so much. I think they hated me because I didn't believe there big words and gesture's. I have already been through so much to fall for such an immature idea.
They made my life hell for so long, his mother took his little sister away from him ( his sister who was his strength through his depression before me) he loves her so much and its so awful. He lost his older brother and the rest of the family, His mother spread rumours making shore no one in the family would talk to him any more, saying that he hated them and never wanted to speak to them again, amongst other profanities. We where made homeless because of this. His things where thrown out on the street and he was un able to keep his job because of this. We where abused by them on a daily basis. Mainly by his mum and brother.
Now mother dear wants him back in her life, on her term of course, a quick apology over the phone and she blames her partner for her actions. Obviously nothing about this woman's apology is sincere. No apology to me of-course because I am the woman she wishes was thrown into a mincer.
She was a really bad mother to her kids, she did awful things, physically and mentally. Her kids are bought up to put mother dearest first no matter what. All of her Children have severe mental and problems that have also effected them physically. Of Corse its not her fault though, her kids are just weird and lazy for no reason. (those words are hers, not mine). I don't know how DHS let it happen.
So now to the point! I was diagnosed with PTSD as a result of repetitive child abuse. I feel that my PTSD has extended itself into this current situation. I am petrified of the situation and it gets to me every day of my life nearly, I do have good periods though where I don't think about it for a while. I thought it would go away in time but its getting worse to the point where I am terrorising myself.
They are out of our life and have been for nearly 2 years but they intrude in random spurts, I think I cant let it go because I'm waiting for the next attack or phone call or apology or what ever. I don't know how to turn this around, I shouldn't be scared and its making me feel sad and pathetic.
It makes me sad that he cant have his family because of me but I also know that if it didn't happen with me it would have happened to a different girl. This happens to all mother dearests children's partners apparently. My partner was mother dearests favourite so I got the worst punishment of them all.
How do I come out one top! How to I make this situation bearable and hopefully even an advantage?
I'm so scared and worried about the situation that its controlling me.
I had an awful experience 4 years ago with my partners family. They are big fat bullies. They use threats to amplify there suggested power status and if they cant get what they want they throw you away. They made my partner choose between me and them. He would not take his mothers ultimatum so I was bullied and lied about.
They put me in physical danger and verbally abused me. They just hated me so much. I think they hated me because I didn't believe there big words and gesture's. I have already been through so much to fall for such an immature idea.
They made my life hell for so long, his mother took his little sister away from him ( his sister who was his strength through his depression before me) he loves her so much and its so awful. He lost his older brother and the rest of the family, His mother spread rumours making shore no one in the family would talk to him any more, saying that he hated them and never wanted to speak to them again, amongst other profanities. We where made homeless because of this. His things where thrown out on the street and he was un able to keep his job because of this. We where abused by them on a daily basis. Mainly by his mum and brother.
Now mother dear wants him back in her life, on her term of course, a quick apology over the phone and she blames her partner for her actions. Obviously nothing about this woman's apology is sincere. No apology to me of-course because I am the woman she wishes was thrown into a mincer.
She was a really bad mother to her kids, she did awful things, physically and mentally. Her kids are bought up to put mother dearest first no matter what. All of her Children have severe mental and problems that have also effected them physically. Of Corse its not her fault though, her kids are just weird and lazy for no reason. (those words are hers, not mine). I don't know how DHS let it happen.
So now to the point! I was diagnosed with PTSD as a result of repetitive child abuse. I feel that my PTSD has extended itself into this current situation. I am petrified of the situation and it gets to me every day of my life nearly, I do have good periods though where I don't think about it for a while. I thought it would go away in time but its getting worse to the point where I am terrorising myself.
They are out of our life and have been for nearly 2 years but they intrude in random spurts, I think I cant let it go because I'm waiting for the next attack or phone call or apology or what ever. I don't know how to turn this around, I shouldn't be scared and its making me feel sad and pathetic.
It makes me sad that he cant have his family because of me but I also know that if it didn't happen with me it would have happened to a different girl. This happens to all mother dearests children's partners apparently. My partner was mother dearests favourite so I got the worst punishment of them all.
How do I come out one top! How to I make this situation bearable and hopefully even an advantage?
I'm so scared and worried about the situation that its controlling me.
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