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In the hands of a really experienced EMDR therapist, it’s the most gentle way of working through disturbing experiences.
Not for everyone. Maybe for many people, but I don't think you can make a blanket statement like this. Essentially, you're saying EMDR is a perfect therapy and if anything goes wrong it's because the therapist wasn't practising it well enough. I find that a surprising viewpoint. People are so different, their experiences of trauma are so different, their experiences of life post-trauma are so different... how can anyone say that one therapy is always right, or even always OK?
EMDR isn't OK for me and that's not because of the therapist or my grounding and safety skills, but because of the therapy itself. It's right for some people, and it isn't right for others. Your statement needs to be qualified.
It's particularly the issue of amnesia and new memories that concern me with EMDR, and I think you gloss over that very unrealistically.
You NEVER need re-live an experience or go into great detail, ever!
If you're going to do things that affect your brain this can't be guaranteed, sorry. It's not even fully understood how EMDR works. You have talked a lot about control, but EMDR is inherently letting go of some control by allowing something to affect your brain. The therapist and client can control what happens in the session but that doesn't mean they can control what happens inside the brain.
In many or even most cases it might be OK. In other cases it might not. You might re-live an experience by getting a new memory or flashback outside the session (perhaps even in the session). The safety you're talking about is reactive - going to a safe place or grounding because something distressing (or retraumatising) has already happened, or begun to happen. It doesn't stop something from happening in the first place. So what you're saying is a promise that you aren't in a position to make.
You talk about the importance of pacing and dosing. How can you pace new memories that come up involuntarily?
Safety and avoiding overwhelm is always an issue with trauma and PTSD, but there's an additional element with amnesia because of the importance of the amnesia as a protective mechanism. Even with the best safety and grounding skills, it's necessary to be protected from some memories until other things have been sufficiently processed and assimilated. As I said before, I feel EMDR carries the risk of interfering with the way the subconscious manages that. (There are other ways to process which work with that, and don't risk disrupting it.)
What you say doesn't allow for a single difficulty, let alone a serious issue, as long as the therapist is as you describe. What if the therapist has a flaw? A bad day? Misses a cue? At what point is an experienced therapist "really experienced" enough and how do you know?
This is another issue with amnesia - the client themselves may not even know what all their experiences have been, so has no way to assess how appropriate the therapist's experience is for them.
There are some traumas that it's less likely a therapist will have previous experience of treating, and those traumas can have different implications from other types of trauma. You ask:
What is trauma/PTSD if not the experience of feeling out of control and unsafe?!
It can also be horror, and I think it's horror above all that I personally would be concerned about treating with EMDR. I do other types of therapy that have the same effect as EMDR - putting what happened into the past, de-activating it etc - but for various reasons I would not use the same approach towards the horror aspects as towards the other ones.
I also question your emphasis on how gentle EMDR is. Reading posts here, a number of people seem to find it effective but don't describe it as the gentle (or continuously safe) experience that you present.
I roam the web looking for EMDR discussions, try to answer questions about it posted by clients/patients, and respond to the critics out there.
I'm aware of this, because I see you from time to time posting almost exactly the same thing in various threads here, both under your current user name and when you had your previous one. I have previously replied and questioned some of the things you said, including how they contradicted the site administrator's own article on EMDR, but you didn't follow through in responding. I find it frustrating that your only participation in this community is to drop in occasionally to promote the therapy that you practise. I think your post should be read in that context.