Loneliness - Perspectives Outside Of Trauma Recovery

[Stanley Shi-Yume]

There is a video, which I have nothing to do with, briefly discussing loneliness as a direct result of the value of individualism. Which makes perfect sense to me, the more we individualize the less we feel belonging in a community.

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I don't agree with the heading precisely. I think that a lack of freedom, an excess of control of our lives by simple materialism, makes us lonely. As we don't have time at that point to take care of ourselves and each other, with the overall Timecost of Living. The communities we live in are of a certain quality... Almost artificial scarcity.

What do you all think?

 

[DMerish]

I only watched about 30 seconds of the video. I think I intuited that the foundation of it's message was foretold long ago by older people, like myself. Essentially, that "advancements" in technology would contribute to the break down of community and connectedness among people - the very fabric of humanity. Maybe I'm right, maybe I'm not.

Anyways, yes, fundamentally I agree that most peoples lives now are guided by the need for money, but almost regardless of how materialistic a person may be. Few people know how to really take care of themselves - grow food, cook, make things themselves, or how to interact with each other. That is all primarily governed by large corporations now.

The lack of community breaks down the fabric of humanity. Albeit, communities such as this one (myptsd) can be helpful for folks to find comradely where none used to be. I suppose we have to take the good with the bad, and both with a grain of salt.

 

[arfie]

These days I call it, "The Cubby Syndrome." 100% of the corporate cube farms I have contracted with are divided by thin, moveable walls that seem to prohibit any and all communication. The person in cubby A is willfully ignorant of the person in cubby B, C, D... Ad infinitum. Meanwhile we spend more and more time on-line forming electron deep bonds with "people" we will not ever meet.

I was born into a family business 59 years ago. Long since fallen to corporate raiders. I married into a corporate family 33 years ago. I cannot even reach across family branches, much less integrate the cubbies of my life. Grandparent A is in moral opposition to Grandparent B and C. Son A is clueless to the life of Son B but enthusiastic in judging and condemning him for it. Etc., etc., through the ruggedly individual cubbies of my life.

Digital social media seems to be my best hope of finding social integration on any level of the contemporary world.

Sigh.

edit: Yes, loneliness is the consistent result.

 

[DMerish]

These days I call it, "The Cubby Syndrome." 100% of the corporate cube farms I have contracted with are divided by thin, moveable walls that seem to prohibit any and all communication. The person in cubby A is willfully ignorant of the person in cubby B, C, D... Ad infinitum. Meanwhile we spend more and more time on-line forming electron deep bonds with "people" we will not ever meet.

You sort of just described my work life. . . I'm not sure if you meant to write "willfully" or "woefully" though. Maybe it's a little of both?

 

[arfie]

Remaining ignorant of the person next to me all day, everyday takes tremendous willpower for me. Part of what makes me a better contractor than employee.

No, @DMerish. Woefully, I meant "wilfully."

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Damn. This vid says everything I've been believing about social media for years! No social media platform has made me feel connected to anyone. I always saw them as fake and manipulated. Yes, manipulated.

I have my various social media accounts but laughingly, I don't use them to be social, AT ALL, regardless of the tons of "friends" I have on Facebook or the over 15K tweets I've sent. They are a means to an end and I don't pretend to know anyone unless I know them face to face and have their phone number in my phone. Internet 101....nobody is as they seem online. Geesh, even Anthony stresses this ad nauseam it seems. But, unfortunately most people don't get it and is knowing a facade an actual acceptable substitute for knowing a whole person? Most people seem to think so, and this is where truly being "social" breaks down...

 

[DMerish]

No, @DMerish. Woefully, I meant "wilfully."

"Willfully" makes it even sadder.