I Have Started Dissociating In Therapy Can Someone Please Explain This

[tms1970]

i sometime see my abuser when a dissocitate during therapy! when i talk to her its like im talking and seeing him!! has this happen to anyone else??

 

[Seasounds]

This has happened to me when a therapist has had qualities of my abuser-more than once. One time, I mentioned it to my therapist, and my therapist disregarded my experience, since it would've meant they were manipulative, and emotionally troubled themselves, just like my abuser.

I'd certainly consider changing therapists. Without intending, we sometimes pick therapists who are very similar to our abuser. Now you've learned what traits to notice and, also, avoid in a therapist. Good luck!

 

[Hashi]

I don't think this necessarily means a problem with your therapist. It could be happening for all sorts of reasons.

Have you discussed it with your therapist?

 

[tms1970]

I'd certainly consider changing therapists. Without intending, we sometimes pick therapists who are very similar to our abuser. Now you've learned what traits to notice and, also, avoid in a therapist.

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[Lucycat]

One time, I mentioned it to my therapist, and my therapist disregarded my experience, since it would've meant they were manipulative, and emotionally troubled themselves, just like my abuser.

Is that what your Therapist actually said? That if they were to regard your experience of dissociation then it would liken them to your abuser? I don't understand the link at all.

Dissociation is very common in therapy. However it needs to be controlled. It happens because you are discussing traumatic events, but processing cannot happen when you are dissociated, so your T needs to teach you grounding . With practice it gets easier to remain 'present' and actually get through the work you are there to do!

 

[tms1970]

Dissociation is very common in therapy. However it needs to be controlled. It happens because you are discussing traumatic events, but processing cannot happen when you are dissociated, so your T needs to teach you grounding . With practice it gets easier to remain 'present' and actually get through the work you are there to do!

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I'd certainly consider changing therapists. Without intending, we sometimes pick therapists who are very similar to our abuser. Now you've learned what traits to notice and, also, avoid in a therapist. Good luck!

No she a great one just wondering why this is happaning

 

[Seasounds]

One time, I mentioned it to my therapist, and my therapist disregarded my experience, since it would've meant they were manipulative, and emotionally troubled themselves, just like my abuser.

Sorry, my description wasn't clearer. No, my therapist did not say that, those words were my angry-discharging, retrospective commentary on this therapist, who, as time would show, shared many negative traits of my abuser.

The flashback was a flashback, and it was also a very accurate forewarning of my therapist's bad qualities, that would be revealed in time. That was my main point: anyone or circumstance can cause a flashback; and sometimes those flashbacks can be a warning that I am in a dangerous situation-that approximates a past trauma. On the other hand, sometimes flashbacks arise when I feel safe and relaxed enough, to let a memory arise.

At the time of this experience with my therapist, I wasn't yet aware of how to uses my signs of being triggered as a navigational guide-of signs of danger.

My apology, again.