Throughthegrapevine
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Hello all, I haven't posted even though I've had an account for months. Every forum I get on, no matter what it is for, or how much I do to the contrary, the replies are almost always rude and demeaning it's made me seriously pause before posting anything. But anyways :)
Yesterday was my first official work day of my job, and I haven't worked in over a year. I've had horrible horrible experiences with management in nearly all of my jobs. Things that nowadays, I'd report to their superior rather than just never talk about because I was afraid. Not of losing my job, but of confrontations and effects of bringing the issues to light.
I have a service dog in training that I didn't bring to the interview, and told them in the first 5 minutes of my interview about it. He is doing really well, except for a few quirks(Just found out this morning that the previous owner thought it was funny to allow him to bark at people of other ethnicities :/), but I didn't want to waste their time or mine if they weren't going to be okay with me having him, and him not being fully trained for his job yet. I didn't bring him for the interview since I knew he would be distracted and have a hard time paying attention to me, and didn't want that to distract from me. The store manager was very cheerful, respectful, and understanding, something I haven't had from an interview in a long time. I didn't get any "red flags" from her, or the manager that was going to be directly over me, to show that this was not the job for me. We talked about what would be the best accommodations for he and I, and made sure we were in agreement, and all was reasonable. I went back 2 days later to do what is called a "test groom" on a dog, which is to show them that I can, in fact, groom a dog. I didn't bring him that day either. At the end of the day, they said the dog looked good, all was good, and we just had to wait for the background check to come back. We stood around talking for a bit. I told them that he goes everywhere with me, ignores almost all merchandise, people, kids. Heck, this lady almost ran over his tail with a giant car stroller at the mall and he didn't even flinch. And I made it as clear as I could that although he is like that other places, his weakness is pet stores. He doesn't pick his nose up off the ground, and he gets EXTREMELY excited and distracted when there is another dog around. Did I mention this job is at a pet store? They were very understanding, and told me that upon being hired, I'd be able to have a free 6 week training class for him, and that their trainer was very experienced with service dogs. When I left, she let me know that the last person they hired didn't get their background check back for 2 weeks, so it could be awhile, and I'd get an e-mail that I MUST MUST MUST click "accept" on, or they wouldn't be able to start the hiring process.
She contacted me this Wednesday(about a week later), saying to look for the email, and setting up for me to come in the next day to start work. While on the phone I said I was really glad the background check came back so soon so I could get started, and she said "Oh that came back the next morning. I was contacting my District Manager and the HR department about making sure we were going about all this correctly for your service dog. I didn't want to tell you it was all okay and then find out I was wrong." I thought that was great, she was being thorough. I would have hated for that to happen too. She read to me the paper that HR sent, which was basically saying what we had already agreed to about him. She made sure again that was okay, and I agreed. It turned out that she wasn't having me work an actual shift, just doing an hours worth of paperwork. Well, I was so worried about bringing his rabies certificate and his blanket and stuff, that I ended up leaving pretty much all MY stuff at home. My husband and I had had some issues the night before, and I hadn't gotten back on to check the email. The email I had to do or they couldn't start paperwork. :( I started to get really anxious, because she reminded me 10 times about it, and I still didn't remember. I didn't want to give them a horrible first impression, and I was already really worried about him misbehaving and them thinking I was lying about him being a service dog in training. Well she emailed someone, and they got right back and said that we could actually log in to the account I made on their site when I did the application, and do what I was supposed to do on the email and get started. I felt relieved for a split second...until I typed in what I thought was my username and password and it said it was wrong. Then I remembered that I made this account over a year ago when I lost my last job. They had no one else apply apparently, and called me even though it had been that long since I put in that application. So I could NOT remember what username it was, and I only use two passwords. I normally use one of 2 usernames, but they weren't right. She kept repeating "if you fail the log in too many times, it'll lock you out and we will have to wait 72 hours." She actually only let me try it twice before she snatched the keyboard out from under me....which kinda freaked me out. At that point I was so stressed out from the bad impression I felt I was making, that I had tears rolling down my face, and said "please excuse me" and walked out...without shutting her door. Called hubby, and he said he didn't expect me to remember, and neither should she. I told him it didn't seem like that, because she seemed to be getting frustrated. I went back in, and still didn't shut the door, and apologized for my abrupt removal of myself from her office, and she said it was okay. While I was out, she emailed someone again, and they reminded my username, which was my first name. My first name. WHY DID I EVEN PUT THAT AS MY USERNAME? I have no idea. I never use my actual name for usernames. Well, then the person at the register called to ask her something, and she said "something something, I don't know right now since my door was left wide open." I said "....oh sorry," and got up and shut the door. And was like...woah...where is this rudeness coming from? She could have just been having a bad day, or stuff going on at home, but I felt like she was getting upset because of ME.
There is more to this I will post. Thanks for reading if it didn't bore you so far :p
Yesterday was my first official work day of my job, and I haven't worked in over a year. I've had horrible horrible experiences with management in nearly all of my jobs. Things that nowadays, I'd report to their superior rather than just never talk about because I was afraid. Not of losing my job, but of confrontations and effects of bringing the issues to light.
I have a service dog in training that I didn't bring to the interview, and told them in the first 5 minutes of my interview about it. He is doing really well, except for a few quirks(Just found out this morning that the previous owner thought it was funny to allow him to bark at people of other ethnicities :/), but I didn't want to waste their time or mine if they weren't going to be okay with me having him, and him not being fully trained for his job yet. I didn't bring him for the interview since I knew he would be distracted and have a hard time paying attention to me, and didn't want that to distract from me. The store manager was very cheerful, respectful, and understanding, something I haven't had from an interview in a long time. I didn't get any "red flags" from her, or the manager that was going to be directly over me, to show that this was not the job for me. We talked about what would be the best accommodations for he and I, and made sure we were in agreement, and all was reasonable. I went back 2 days later to do what is called a "test groom" on a dog, which is to show them that I can, in fact, groom a dog. I didn't bring him that day either. At the end of the day, they said the dog looked good, all was good, and we just had to wait for the background check to come back. We stood around talking for a bit. I told them that he goes everywhere with me, ignores almost all merchandise, people, kids. Heck, this lady almost ran over his tail with a giant car stroller at the mall and he didn't even flinch. And I made it as clear as I could that although he is like that other places, his weakness is pet stores. He doesn't pick his nose up off the ground, and he gets EXTREMELY excited and distracted when there is another dog around. Did I mention this job is at a pet store? They were very understanding, and told me that upon being hired, I'd be able to have a free 6 week training class for him, and that their trainer was very experienced with service dogs. When I left, she let me know that the last person they hired didn't get their background check back for 2 weeks, so it could be awhile, and I'd get an e-mail that I MUST MUST MUST click "accept" on, or they wouldn't be able to start the hiring process.
She contacted me this Wednesday(about a week later), saying to look for the email, and setting up for me to come in the next day to start work. While on the phone I said I was really glad the background check came back so soon so I could get started, and she said "Oh that came back the next morning. I was contacting my District Manager and the HR department about making sure we were going about all this correctly for your service dog. I didn't want to tell you it was all okay and then find out I was wrong." I thought that was great, she was being thorough. I would have hated for that to happen too. She read to me the paper that HR sent, which was basically saying what we had already agreed to about him. She made sure again that was okay, and I agreed. It turned out that she wasn't having me work an actual shift, just doing an hours worth of paperwork. Well, I was so worried about bringing his rabies certificate and his blanket and stuff, that I ended up leaving pretty much all MY stuff at home. My husband and I had had some issues the night before, and I hadn't gotten back on to check the email. The email I had to do or they couldn't start paperwork. :( I started to get really anxious, because she reminded me 10 times about it, and I still didn't remember. I didn't want to give them a horrible first impression, and I was already really worried about him misbehaving and them thinking I was lying about him being a service dog in training. Well she emailed someone, and they got right back and said that we could actually log in to the account I made on their site when I did the application, and do what I was supposed to do on the email and get started. I felt relieved for a split second...until I typed in what I thought was my username and password and it said it was wrong. Then I remembered that I made this account over a year ago when I lost my last job. They had no one else apply apparently, and called me even though it had been that long since I put in that application. So I could NOT remember what username it was, and I only use two passwords. I normally use one of 2 usernames, but they weren't right. She kept repeating "if you fail the log in too many times, it'll lock you out and we will have to wait 72 hours." She actually only let me try it twice before she snatched the keyboard out from under me....which kinda freaked me out. At that point I was so stressed out from the bad impression I felt I was making, that I had tears rolling down my face, and said "please excuse me" and walked out...without shutting her door. Called hubby, and he said he didn't expect me to remember, and neither should she. I told him it didn't seem like that, because she seemed to be getting frustrated. I went back in, and still didn't shut the door, and apologized for my abrupt removal of myself from her office, and she said it was okay. While I was out, she emailed someone again, and they reminded my username, which was my first name. My first name. WHY DID I EVEN PUT THAT AS MY USERNAME? I have no idea. I never use my actual name for usernames. Well, then the person at the register called to ask her something, and she said "something something, I don't know right now since my door was left wide open." I said "....oh sorry," and got up and shut the door. And was like...woah...where is this rudeness coming from? She could have just been having a bad day, or stuff going on at home, but I felt like she was getting upset because of ME.
There is more to this I will post. Thanks for reading if it didn't bore you so far :p
