Seemed Like New Job Was Accommodating... Now Not Sure

[Suzetig]

Am I right in thinking the accommodation you don't feel she is making is with regard to you taking your service dog out? You explained that you sometimes take your dog out to avoid having a panic attack and she questioned how often you'd need to do that?

When you took your dog out was it because it was a usual time for it to go potty or because you were worried about having a panic attack? Even allowing for her accommodating you, I don't think it's unreasonable of her to ask how often you'd normally need to take your service dog out - I'm guessing you have some idea of its usual potty habit so could say something like "it would normally go once in the morning and afternoon but if I'm having a bad day, or x triggers me or whatever it will be more often but it's hard to say how often". Don't forget she's learning to work with you and your particular issues and she needs to be able to ask you what may happen and what you need.

It so hard adjusting to a new workplace under usual circumstances but you've got a lot on your plate, just take things slowly and see how it goes.

 

[Throughthegrapevine]

@Suzetig

I found her, and asked if I was still going to be okay that I needed take him outside 3-5 times a day, and she said "oh that's fine, it's not a problem, I just didn't know where you were hahaha."

That's the conversation we had after she came outside to ask me that. Also, I really am not comfortable with telling people what triggers me. I actually told them I have PTSD and bipolar, even though I know they can't ask for that and such, because I wanted them to have some idea of what they should expect with me. I know a lot of people wouldn't like to divulge that, but I don't care if they know that, I just don't like them knowing what exactly triggers me. Like it actually triggers me to think about telling people what my triggers are. Again, I'm not saying the question was unreasonable, I'm saying the situation and tone she used when she asked me, made it seem like she was suddenly not okay with me taking him outside, and it was very confrontational. I would not be making a giant deal out of a basic question like that itself. I'm not sure if that's what you're insinuating, I'm really not that unreasonable.

She didn't casually ask me a question, she went out of her way to stop what she was doing and walk 10 minutes to cross her arms and ask me that.

 

[Justmehere]

Do you have any therapeutic support for handling these stressors?

 

[Throughthegrapevine]

If by therapeutic support you mean a Therapist of some sort, no, I do not. I went to them for years. Lost healthcare. Had one that would work with me on payment, but her husband was my primary care doctor for many years, and I asked for my medical records (not from Therapy, just medical), and they made a HUGE deal out of it. When I finally got them to send my records, they would only give me stuff from the last 2 years, nothing before, and there were some discrepancies between his records and what I was told during the appointments themselves.

Example: I once went in for what I thought was a spider bite, and my doctor took one look at it and said it was herpes, the same kind that causes cold sores, not the sexually transmitted kind, and gave me steroid cream. On the medical record, it said I came in for a spider bite, what kind of spider he diagnosed as biting me, and that he just cleaned it and prescribed nothing. I tried to go to my local MHMR, but the lady at the help desk was extremely disrespectful, and wouldn't help answer questions I had. I was homeless at the time, and my husband and I were jobless, and they thought I was making our living situation up, and refused to give me an appointment until I brought them "proof of residency," which I didn't have because we were living in a tent. I refuse to go back there, and I can't afford anything else. Which is part of why I'm trying to get a job, which I'm really not ready for, and may never be able to do again, and I was really doing well without.