Judgemental

[Supev]

In my world this was far worse then the criterion A stuff. This is how bad it is for some people.

I assume this is original poster. Let me say that this is just plain insulting. What do you want from any of us? People here have had knives to their throats, been on life support as kids, been raped by their dads, or watched the person beside them die after a car crash. We don't compare traumas because they are traumas. They have neuropsychological implications, as indicated by PTSD diagnoses. Traumas are not the same as losses. To say that your loss is worse than someone else's trauma is really out of line here and inflammatory.

I understand you are hurting. Not having PTSD does not invalidate that you feel really bad. You can have very very bad feelings and still get support, but this is probably not the right place if you want to call a break-up self-diagnosed "ptsd." Also, suggesting that anyone here being unfriendly could push you over the edge is MANIPULATION. I suggest you consider talking to a mental health professional to rule out other issues, such as personality problems. But most likely you are hurting and angry, maybe other stuff, but not traumatized. You deserve some kind of guidance or support but obviously you are using this forum to dig deeper into your own hole versus really do anything to help yourself feel better. If you feel like "unfriendly" comments coming from those who understand PTSD are pushing you over the edge, you need to take care of yourself and leave.

"Far worse than criterion A"....this will get you NOWHERE here. Horribly insensitive and selfish statement. Your pain needs to be heard in an appropriate place, like a forum about grief or depression or general mental health stuff.

 

[Ale]

There's nothing inherently wrong with gymnastics

Best post I have read in a while.

I never self-diagnosed with PTSD but compairing a broken heart with a stubbed toe is just so wrong and hurtful

I think you have misinterpreted the posts in that thread. You could always ask the posters for clarification, or leave it until you feel less emotional, and read over that thread again. You're quoting those posters out of context, I think, and taking it personally, when it is a general discussion about "fakers".

OP, why are you posting in the PTSD anonymous section if you are actually a supporter (or ex-supporter?) of someone who has been diagnosed with PTSD? I'm confused. Yu say you felt like you could never be happy again when he did not want you, which is why I'm confused about you posting in the PTSD threads. Maybe the supporters section could help you better.

You deserve some kind of guidance or support

I agree with this.

In your world that may be the case that your broken heart was worse than trauma, but in the world of someone with PTSD, it is not. The trauma is what physically and psychologically breaks you. Well, that is my experience.

I respect your right to an opinion and your frame of reference, OP, and I hope you get the support you are after.

 

[Busic]

Ale again, sorry OP, you did say you were a supporter, so presumably you are here to say to people who have PTSD that we shouldn't be pissed off or try to guide people to a clear diagnosis when they come here and do not have a trauma history that fits with the diagnosis. I disagree. I think it is a good thing that people point this out to those in order for them to get the correct help they need. It isn't ridicule.

And you are also here to vent about another forum that invalidated your husband's experience of being a computer tech in a war zone. I still think the supporters section would be able to support you and help you through these issues. People here do their best to help, I don't see that as bullying.

 

[Bera]

It is very frustrating for people (like your husband - assuming he has a formal diagnosis) with actual PTSD that is affecting every moment of their lives in an ongoing manner to hear people use the term PTSD when what they mean is "I was really upset about that thing that happened years ago but now I'm fine."

I don't think that this is frustrating for my husband. At least he never told me. It is frustrating however if people tell him "What happened to you is not really bad. Other people have far worse happening to them. You are just plain crazy". That has happened to him and made him feel weak.

 

[Ume]

What do you want from any of us?

I want you to stop gossiping, stop calling people fakers and stop making fun of other people's pain.

To say that your loss is worse than someone else's trauma is really out of line here and inflammatory.

I said that my loss felt worse than my trauma for me. To make you realize that there are people who did not have a criterion A trauma but may feel pretty low nevertheless. I said nothing about someone elses trauma.

Also, suggesting that anyone here being unfriendly could push you over the edge is MANIPULATION.

Nothing you could say could ever push ME over the edge. This happened years ago. I have since met another man and married him. It could push people who are young and vulnarable and have not learned propper self-care over the edge.

 

[Udopu]

And you are also here to vent about another forum that invalidated your husband's experience of being a computer tech in a war zone. I still think the supporters section would be able to support you and help you through these issues. People here do their best to help, I don't see that as bullying.

It's not a forum. It's real life where people hold that belief and told me and sometimes also him. This has made him feel down before. I typically try to shield him from that but I am not always able to do this. So it happened again and I am so happy he is not here and must read stuff about how some elses trauma is not bad enough to be down.

 

[Kahobi]

or leave it until you feel less emotional.

I should have done this :) Sometimes I do act on an emotion without thinking first.

 

[Beteca]

Hmm, Opatik, read your reply, registered your reply, have to say that from the first words of the original post here I noticed something amiss. Red flag warning in the original post that motivates me to withhold any reply of my own.

You know when someone yells: bomb in the hole!!!!! That is what the original post here strikes me as. Just a hunch.....

 

[Ori]

Guess I should leave the conversation, guess I should never have posted :(

Just to inform you. No, your feelings about this have been absolutely wrong. I started this thread because I was pissed off by al the judgementality that is in the world.

 

[Hacavo]

It's not a forum

I had misunderstood.

I was pissed off by al the judgementality that is in the world

That's understandable. I think it's about learning to manage that, the feeling of being pissed off at being judged by others. Unfortunately, the world is full of judgement. That won't really change IMHO.