Little Party

[sun seeker]

If I'm understanding this right, then, it's not being around people that is the challenge for you but being around people in an unstructured situation. I can certainly relate to that. Playing a violin concerto is a focused activity involving you, the accompanist, orchestra if any, and the audience. If you have to talk, it's within some semi-predicatable guidelines: let's go back to bar 72; put a crescendo there; thank you, I'm glad you enjoyed it. Going out for lunch though, people could want to talk about anything under the sun. I hardly ever do anything social that is open-ended like that, except with a very few people. I'd much rather have a job to do in a social situation than be thrown to the sharks... er, sorry, I mean to say allowed to mill around and socialize. Is it something like that?

 

[Chava]

If I'm understanding this right, then, it's not being around people that is the challenge for you but being around people in an unstructured situation. I can certainly relate to that.

Yes. I can still have a panic attack on stage in front of 2,000 people but it's not because of the people but something in my body. I loved being in the orchestra because I do like people (I like music even more, but this was a great social group for me...quit because of chronic re-injury). I do not like unstructured groups. I loath parties. This one had a game we all played, which likely made it possible for me.

Thanks for pointing that out @sun seeker . I need to make more time for structured groups like book studies, but not just more committee work where I feel like I'm doing other people's dirty work all the time. But yes, social with structure. On my own, I'm insanely random. Groups of people apparently need to be organized though.

 

[sun seeker]

It makes perfect sense to me. Of course, that was easy to understand because I'm the same way.