What Difference Is There With Parking?.

[KwanYingirl]

i live in a condo in an old beach house that has six units. Two of us live here year round and this woman has definite psyche problems. She has fits of rage and can't tolerate anything that she can't control-like me!! She has bitched about everything I do, which is basically living my life on my terms and not hers. Her latest rant is the fact that I don't back into my parking place. I park front end in. I have lousy depth perception and poor peripheral vision so backing into a small space is not something I can do. Today she insisted that I learn to park back in first.

What difference does it make? She claims everyone else parks that way and I need to also. She complains about everything I do. The way I put my trash out, parking on the street, making tire marks in the lawn ( made by a large truck). She can't stand me and the feeling is mutual. I am going to stand in my own truth. Unless someone can give a valid reason for backing into a parking place, I'm going to park any damn way I want. You should see her whole body and face turn into a rage full control freak. I checked the condo by laws and there is no mention of parking in it.

I feel like I am a magnet for crazy people. I don't mean PTSD we"re not crazy we"re traumatized. Having to control every little detail of every person is crazy. How do I live in peace with her lurking about waiting to attack my personality?

 

[shimmerz]

How do I live in peace with her lurking about waiting to attack my personality?

My suggestion? Refuse to engage. The more words you give her, the more she will come after you.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Keep on living your life the way that best works for you. Can you make a complaint about her to the association? She seems to be escalating and bullying and harassing you.

Staying calm produces better results, easier said than done, I realize. Refuse to speak to her if you are able to do that. Just walk away from her and defuse her tantrums. I wish you good luck with her.

 

[StellaBlue]

Years ago, probably the late 1980's, my company gave a safety presentation that showed that backing into a parking space was so much more unsafe than parking forward into it and then backing out. Since then, I have never backed into a space. That said, you are aware that she is bsc (bat shit crazy), so your goal is not so much parking but how to deal with her... I think ignoring is a wise idea... but I am so sorry you have found your new home has a bsc person to trigger you.

 

[KwanYingirl]

@gizmo she's the president of the Association. She is so unstable and mean that none of the tradesmen in the area will do work here.
@shimmerz yes I avoid her at all costs and when she rants I turn around and walk away. I intend to stand in my truth!!
And @StellaBlue thank you for that info on safety. Now I have science on my side!!!

 

[shimmerz]

I like the idea of repeating Stella's 'Bat Shit Crazy' in your head when you see her. It will drive her crazy trying to figure out why you seem amused by her! :hilarious::hilarious:

 

[Friday]

Anyone else have a Fried Green Tomatoes moment & (not so secretly ;) ) hoped @KwanYingirl would back in? Cough. Lousy depth perception to be blamed for just so happening to squash Ms.BatShitCrazyControlFreak's car? Cough.

You're doing outstanding, KYG :)

 

[mrsps]

I sadly have no advise for you as someone with little confidence and cant stand up for myself she would get to me and I would have to move!

 

[Kintsugi]

This song always helps me with people who I can't stand... (NSFW)

 

[desiderata310]

In CA it's actually illegal in some areas to back into a space(like where I live. People are weird!).
That said, I often do but that's a PTSD thing: I look at it as a way to get away quickly should my ex show up.

 

[Chava]

Argh!! I've worked with someone like this....she made up bullshit policy if she could, just to control everyone and the whole environment. It was really sickening. And rages, too. She somehow felt threatened by everyone and had to over-do her job plus point out what everyone else was doing wrong. These people do tend to fall in their own shit over and over. Just let her be crazy ass mad about your car. She'll just be who she is. And you can just be you.

 

[Lucycat]

Here there is a law that prohibits you from reversing out onto a main road ( and therefore into traffic). If the parking space was directly off the main road you would be obliged to reverse park so that on leaving you have clear vision.

That is an exception, and in reality few places park directly off the road anyway. I suspect yours is off road if it is parking for several cars.

Ignore her and keep smiling.