How Can You Tell Intuition From Paranoia In Dating Relationships?

[iwannadeletethis]

i can't tell if I'm just fully paranoid.. Or if my intuition is going off. My boyfriend leaves his iPad at home but it's connected to his personal and work phone. So while he's at work, I can see all of his boring work texts. He encourages me to look at it, because he knows what I've been through and he doesn't want to leave any room for doubt. But my ex husband was so techy, that he flawlessly hid everything through apps and settings right in front of me. So now when I see a female client end a text with a smiley face, or offer up extra information I think, "she's friendly with him because he's somehow given her room to, and she could be side candy" But his responses are always overly BORING and straight to the point. HELP!!! This iPad nonsense leads to full blown panic attacks that make me physically ill. And with me being home so much because I can't find work, I'm not sure it would be any different without the iPad.

 

[Deleted member 30036]

I think that you might be alittle paranoid he seems to want to make it so your comfortable by linking his texts to the ipad :) i know its hard and can weigh on your mind alot when your home alone and have time to think :) try spending time away from the ipad either go for a walk or try do something inside that will keep your mind occupied and if all else fails you can pop on to chat and chat with whoever is on i hope this helps :)

 

[iwannadeletethis]

@ThatRandom91 he does.. And he's a sweet guy. And he's always telling me to get out when he leaves for work. Lol. But he's not very good and showing emotion and he can be all business.. So I don't always feel like I have something to go on.

 

[ThursdayZimBobWayz]

I do the same was soon as he goes i snoop everything .... and if i find the smallest thing like porn on the computer as soon as he gets home i call him out on it so quick ... but im the crazy one bc apparently porn is "normal"...

 

[iwannadeletethis]

@ThursdayZimBobWayz .. Glad to know I'm not alone!! Porn doesn't bother me.. I get mad when we're out and about and he jokes about crassly hitting on chics. I don't feel like I know him well enough to know if he actually does it when im not around. I know he's coming home to me, but the industry he's in is very rough around the edges.

 

[ThursdayZimBobWayz]

Well there was a point in the grocery store when he hit me in the back with the cart bc he was busy checking out another girl... months later after it boiled in me.. im so jealous i cnt have porn nope .. jealous everything makes me jealous and hateful .. so months later after i had a list built up i laid it on him thick made him feel like a real a-hole.... i dont think he is cheating .. if he is hes doing good hiding it from this csi agent .. but the frustrated emotions he makes me feel that i have to control are unacceptable.. and we are at the point where he needs to know that they hurt me and if he loves me it will stop or attempt to stop.. and every time he goes oooo ahhhh over a chick on TV ... i look at him and say.. Why do you gotta say stupid things .. just to make him aware & leave it at that .. i understand how you feel... other people wont... even if its our lovers.. People take the ability to "let the little things go " for granted bc for me I'll let it go when heLl -o freezes over... lol but i try to show him i can control myself ... i love him don't want him to leave bc my own personal issues bc this stuff pushes guys away

 

[ThursdayZimBobWayz]

@Skitzii you are not alone

 

[iwannadeletethis]

I feel like there's a deeper reason to be pissed about our guys gauking over another girl other than jealousy. Our society has set up a standard of beauty that's just ridiculous and unrealistic. Everyone's so different, I feel like we should all have our own standards of beauty. So when your lover gauks over another, it's almost him reminding you that we don't measure up to society's airbrushed and impossible standards.

 

[iwannadeletethis]

I feel like there's a deeper reason to be pissed about our guys gauking over another girl other than jea...

@ThursdayZimBobWayz

So it's like someone who should love you so much is telling you you're not good enough. Whether they mean to or not.

Sorry.. Having issues with this thing.. Haha

 

[ThursdayZimBobWayz]

@Skitzii I always tell my bf ... " White Black or Yellow if their hair is too pretty it aint real " and he has seen me with and without make up and he is aware that those are two different worlds.. to me its respect they should respect us enough to not make us feel uncomfortable emotions.. jealousy makes me hot and sweaty ... with sudden urges to hit things

 

[ThursdayZimBobWayz]

@Skitzii a lot of men .... i say this nicely ... are stupid... they say so on guy code and most men know this... that's why they do they things they do... at least that's what my elders have passed down to me... they said when judging your male ... know that they are stupid..

 

[iwannadeletethis]

@Skitzii I always tell my bf ... " White Black or Yellow if their hair is...

@ThursdayZimBobWayz i love that!! HILARIOUS. And true. Jealousy sucks. I'm fairly certain that 98% of my jealousy is from imagined sh*t and the other 2% are b*tches getting competitive in innapropriate circumstances. Makes me wanna knock heads together too!!