I am a male and soon 60 years old. Some of the first memories I have are of being sexually assaulted. I never gave them a thought until a jack ass social worker gave me her professional liberal arts dx of Anger and Personality DO: unspecified. I was 40 and after several months she made the declaration I must have been sexually assaulted......... and the odyssey began.
20 years later I am more furious than ever having ultimately given up my career as a RN and chosen to live a far safer life with my wife, away from people and society.
Let there be no question about it: The Secondary Trauma encountered from dumb ass social workers and licensed professional practitioners down to unlicensed pseudo professional rape crisis counselors, (I've seen over 30 ) has been far and again exponentially more damaging making the original trauma seem pale in comparison.
Despite my paranoia, I continue to be tracked as well as persistently having my life's details combed through like maggots in a dead horse, simply because I am a male in a feminist world where only females can be sexually assaulted, male victims produce predators, and the help for traumatic recovery is provided exclusively by females for females who will vehemently challenge anyone over the right to the public funds that support their cause, all the way to the point of setting male victims up in contrived female group therapy sessions and gaslighting male victims in an effort to indicate gross mental illness for their purpose of declaring that victim incompetent.
Early last year, I ended 13 months of therapy with a social worker who made the burden all mine by persistently telling me I am the one who must work hard and success depends totally on me. But the final straw came when after all those months I took the chance and mentioned being publicly sexually assaulted (no R word). Her immediate nonchalant response........... So is this something you didn't want?
I concluded if she were right and the the entire burden is all mine, couldn't a lot of money be saved because who needs them.
Even though it went no where, that incident did give me the power to file yet another written complaint with the state board of registry.
Over the past 20 years I have taken on the issue of male sexual assault or: Rape the genderless crime as my personal mission and have seen a new era emerge, with both positive awareness such as this article and these posts along with negative as evidenced by the escalated public retaliation taken against them.
I learned early on, in an effort to be allowed to be heard, either publicly or individually and not wind up shut out as a hieratic, that I must always use the term(s) molestation or sexual molestation vs rape when referring to me or any other male.
In closing I want to emphasize the seriousness of the present day level of danger all male victims in our culture are susceptible, particularly in the mid southern US, by stating I am only in recent days returning to the internet due to incidents of stalking over the past few years, publicly online, through a large church, and even to the point of having a gun shot taken at me. I have grown to expect being bullied, but by recommendation of authorities I stayed offline due to the life threatening danger.
I have for a human life always hoped for acceptance, not just for me but countless others who live privately and unknown if even only just once by a therapist or any individual for that matter, who would simply listen and comprehend the nature of not just the crime itself, but the challenge our culture place on all males (men) that must face living with it.
What I have experienced could fill volumes, but will never see the light of day. These recent posts here at MYPTSD are an experiment and time will tell if I return to the internet or not.
Tom S. in Tn.
