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[pandora]

Thanx She...yes there are definately some bullies on here...whether they intend to be or not...so be it! Don't worry, I don't consider you one and I am not holding grudges. I just have a very strong opinion as do others here and everyone has there own thoughts. We are never all going to agree. I just find that the support here sometimes is more hurtful than supportive. That is kind of sad as it makes me reconsider posting sometimes because I don't need the BS.

 

[wattle]

Pandora I hope things work out for you anbd your family.:smile:

 

[Nicolette]

the only thing I can do is give you some reputation for standing up for yourself, setting boundaries for *us bullies* and telling you, that you did good...

Ok....this is going too far. *Us bullies* is not a correct assessment of what has been going on here. Stating a blunt but honest opinion is simply that and is NOT Bullying. Furthermore, someone not liking what was written, no matter how true, is their issue to deal with and I don't think that someone else putting counter productive ideas in that person's head helps either. Pandora may have felt very uncomfortable with what was said but there was nothing wrong with what was said. Putting a bullying notion in the thread was not helpful as if anything it only re-enforces Pandora's feelings rather than assisting her in evaluating what people had to say....all of which I believe was well intentioned.

Thanx She...yes there are definately some bullies on here...whether they intend to be or not...so be it! Don't worry, I don't consider you one and I am not holding grudges. I just have a very strong opinion as do others here and everyone has there own thoughts. We are never all going to agree. I just find that the support here sometimes is more hurtful than supportive. That is kind of sad as it makes me reconsider posting sometimes because I don't need the BS.

Enough already! Anthony takes great care to ensure there is no bullying and I support him in that in my role here. It is also unfair to allow and accept one person being brutally blunt and honest but not another. Infact, infering that the other person(s) doing the same thing is a bully and not the first is being ridiculous.

Pandora and Wendy, stop this nonsense please. Pandora, if you don't want to hear what others have to say, even if it is constructive critism, I suggest you only tell those people who will tell you what you want to hear. The purpose of the forum is for people to help each other which is what was happening here whether you are willing to admit it or not. If you don't need the 'BS' please stop creating it for others.

 

[Nicolette]

Hopefully everyone has now taken a deep breath and had a think about where this was heading...........

I closed the thread yesterday to give some a chance to think before responding and I am now re-opening it on the premise it will be kept on topic and not get out of hand with nonsense.

 

[anthony]

Bec and Tude have very valid opinions, none of which would I classify as bullying. Wendy, you are well out of line in my opinion in backing up and supporting an aggressive stance against others opinions. Pandora is quite rightfully allowed to feel as though she is bullied, however; that is her feeling to own and not for another to concur considering none of the circumstances apply to anyone other than Pandora.

I will warn people now to be independent and do not form teams or alliances here to stand together. A persons feeling is unique and is not for others to feel, nor could another feel their pain.

This should have been left with Pandora's response, being to agree to disagree, yet she will take all opinions onboard respecting those as individual, using what she chooses to use without influence from another.

I do not think we need to continually cover what an opinion is... nor should we have to continually see such nonsense upon the forum with coersion, teaming up, etc.

Again... what Nicolette said with the addition that both Bec and Tude's personal opinion are all valid and have the right to express them here. None of these where attacking, aggressive or the like; just their opinions based on what is known from here. Pandora clearly pointed out that not all is known here.... accept that and accept that Pandora is a big girl and can choose for herself without aggressive stances from another.

Let this get back on topic or it will be closed permanently. All else should be done privately through PM if it is disruptive to the forum.

 

[Deleted member 541]

Just for the record, I said *us bullies* NO where did I say bec, or tude specifically, I INCLUDED myself in this Anthony.

 

[pandora]

The whole situation has been blown right out of proportion,,,I was..in my mind sharing a positive thing...I wasn;t even asking for advice I was merely sharing what what happening in myh life.

 

[Grama-Herc]

I am glad this has been reopened. Not so we can continue to give unwanted opinions and advise, but because it proves we all have the right to our opinions.

It is a shame that we can't share when something good happens in our life without others "raining on our parade" Especially when opinions/advise were not asked for.

Just MHO

 

[pandora]

I started another thread in PTSD only about this same topic....I could not find this one to continue but I think a new thread might be a better idea anyway.