Recent content by Laurie McLaughlin

Yes it can - but what I realized is that it was simply because I was not used to having a voice - But I started slowly and treated myself with as much compassion as possible and then slowly, slowly, I was able to speak my own wisdom Keep the faith - Laurie

I wish hope and pray you find the courage that is inside you to make it through - it is there What helps for me is to remember that no matter how horrible things are right now - nothing is permanent - everything is transitory - flowing - if I can find myself within myself within the turmoil, I...

I remember when I first started to deal with the bad things my father did to me emotionally, I was happy thinking I was really going to deal with the issues between my father and me. But the first thing that came up for me was not my father screaming but my mother standing there letting him...

Hi there - In general, what I need to feel safe is continuing to work to place my mind in the present moment - If a sense of fear arises in my mind, I try to recognize it as fear and for me fear is always the worry that something might happen in the future - if fear arises, I work on realizing...

Hi there - I know this is not a great answer - but sometimes things just happen and we change - for example yesterday, I was hurting a lot physically from my cancer and was bummed about it and was thinking about going back on pain meds - today - the pain was less than it had been in a while I...

Hi Im not Spiderman - What helps me is to rejoice in the good moments I do have - And yes, they probably won't last - I think about the nature of all things is that they change If I try to hold onto the good times, I will be disappointed - So I work on just being present in the moment and...

Hey Bacon OD - Thanks for being here and working on yourself and your PTSD As the daughter of a rageaholic alcoholic veteran with PTSD, remembering back to the times when my father was abusive with me - it would have helped if he was completely honest with me - I can relate to your son and...

Hi there - I have CPTSD and have had trouble sleeping too - Regular meditation works for me but you said it does not work for you - but you can try walking meditation which combines movement and learning to work on calming the mind - I know Qi Gong also works for me because it deals with...

So sorry you are having such a bad time This might sound really ironic but for me, triggers help me remember to live in the present moment - I am not sure this is true for everyone but when something triggers me I think it is because I immediately go back to the moment or times when that thing...

Hey there - For me what helped was meditation - With mindfulness meditation I am able to take control of my thoughts - and when something bad happens that can turn my day from a good one into a bad one, through the practice of meditation I can begin to recognize negative thoughts (reactions to...

Hey there - I can relate so much to what you are going through - My dad was not an astrologer or spiritual seeker but he seems a lot like your dad in other ways. He had a lot of charm, charisma, intelligence and talent and a LOT of anger and fear and inability to like himself and he took it...

I know this might sound crazy - but for me, I have found that I cannot always make others change as much as they ought to - I can only work on myself - I find if I can give myself some compassion around things that happen - that helps me be able to be calm and use my wisdom to deal with those in...

Hey there - welcome - I feel truth - especially done with as much compassion for ourselves as possible is the best way to heal Take care - Laurie

Hi there - Sorry it took so long to get back to you I hear what you are saying - and what worked for me was to stop judging my inner self by the actions and words of those who are not me. You are you - and your heart knows what is good about you and what is not. Listen to it. What I had to...

I have such a startle response that if someone comes up behind me and touches me on the arm, I sometimes will take a swing at them. Of course I don't mean to hurt them, it's totally reflexive. I have found that if I think that someone might do that, I warn them ahead of time as kindly as...