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So working on the distressing emotions and compulsive behaviors was more beneficial? What difference do you see in your core belief?

I feel like my inner child liked the sexual abuse because they got aroused. I get aroused when I’m genuinely terrified. Even with talking about this in my in person support group I felt the fear arousal. My abuser made me feel special. She helped me with my loneliness. I loved her. As my other...

Yeah, I feel in order to take our friendship to another form of closeness I have to sleep with them. My core values doesn’t align with sleeping with my friends. I just don’t know what to do with these feelings. I want to be healthy.

I feel like I owe them seed because they’re so nice to me. I just want them to feel good…I know that sounds disgusting. I don’t know why my trauma responses are so gross.

I’m trying to understand what I’m feeling towards my friend. I usually get excited when I’m around her and she’s like a social battery recharge. I fantasize about kissing her and sometimes when I’m with her I want to. Even though sometimes I think about what it’ll be like if we slept together...

Can you explain in a different way what you mean? I might be getting the gist that avoiding masturbation could also be harmful for me due to it also may be avoiding my trauma. Though I’m not talking about forever stopping it. I’m just not in a healthy space sexually to engage in it Thank you, I...

Thank you for replying. I find myself shaming my body and thoughts for even thinking about masturbation. I do know it’s something I need to work on with my therapist. I have a sex therapist that also specializes in body work. However, she doesn’t want us talking about trauma instead we’re...

I started masturbation I think at age nine following the end of the sexual abuse. I think I did it to continue the feel good emotion tied to the abuse. It was always compulsive and still feels out of control now. I want to stop because my inner child thinks it’s disgusting. I also read that if...

There isn’t a statute of limitations for a sex crime/child abuse case for where I live.

I’m in the US. I think the cons outweigh the pros at this point. I’m not fully in recovery yet and I’m not financially stable. I think when I’m at that point where I feel stable I’ll pose the question to myself again. But right now I don’t have the funds to support a civil case nor am I in the...

Both, I would love pros and cons to help me because genuinely I’m stuck on whether or not this is a good decision

After considering how my case of childhood sexual abuse got thrown out because my abuser passed a lot detector test, I was wondering Should I seek out a lawyer? I understand that I should be radically accepting that I probably will never get justice but with the memories of sexual abuse piling...

Thank you for giving me an outside perspective. I really like what you said about shame. I think it seems not only from sexual trauma but religious trauma. Sexuality has always been displayed in my life as bad and sinful. When the abuse was happening I thought my buddy was even more wrong and...

With one of my therapists I’m not allowed to talk about my sexual traumas due to it constantly activating Crisis. And I’m not for sure what I meant by the typo sentence.

I also dissociate during sex and go into autopilot on what I’m “supposed” to do. Just mostly asking for advice on what I should target.

I was wondering if other people got really high to dissociate in order to masturbate. Because my core self doesn’t want to but my bad post in regression does

I’m not sure how to, do you know how besides radical acceptance?

Thank you for the suggestions I didn’t end up calling her. I think it was just an exile (IFS Therapy language for an inner child part) wanting justice. My whole case didn’t move forward because the abuser passed the lie detector test. Which in no way should even be used anymore

If I call my abuser and record her asking why she did what she would that be harassment? And can she sue or arrest me for harassment? Or get a protection order? I messaged her in the last month asking if we can meet up and she was responding back to me asking why I want to meet. If she responds...

Internal Family Systems (IFS) works perfectly for that. You speak from the multiple parts in your mind from the exile (the child part hurt by trauma) to the protector. It’s very interesting

How does one progress past the discovery stage with intensive therapy? On a Wednesday of last month, I was acting weird. I asked my friend randomly if she had ever been assaulted even though our conversation didn't remind me or call it. Then later that day I took edibles of marijuana, got high...

That’s what I had to do when I more memories come out when I was high another time. However, now I have a comparison. Because the memories were connected to things I can verify. I verified the color of the religious building she took me to. I verified the local mall she use to prize me with...

What I meant by my post was I confused on if what I was experiencing was a false memory or a real one. This confusion was due to not knowing if the weed affects memories in a bad way or if it brings things to the subconscious. I’m not for sure. I wish there was a recording on everything that...

do anyone have any advice or insight? 🥺 i really need encouragement feeling numb and i don’t know how to proceed this

Yesterday I had flashes of images of being raped by groomer with either a dildo or strap on. Even though I was under the influence of cannabis and I’ve read an article on false memory work with the power of suggestion; I don’t think this is fake. The images came out of nowhere I didn’t dwell on...