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Hi Hashi I am sorry to hear that you have lost your way. Research shows that anxiety is directly correlated with confidence. If you do not feel confident in doing something it will cause anxiety. By what I have read it appears you are anxious about your ability to reach deep...

HI all, I have started to hear this a lot. I also lost all interest in things I thought I liked and was focused on before. Had my priorities changed so that something I cared about before seem trivial and unimportant? I realised how much of my time was taken focusing on the wrong things...

Hi Bimble There is always time to make up for the way you say you treated your wife. It is never too late to try again if that is what you really want. But it still comes down to blame. You admit you have recognised your behaviour has caused her to feel neglected. The point is for...

Hi Pietro Sounds like your head is spinning with hard to make decisions and negative hopes. Sorry to hear this. :( I am not surprised that you feel burnt out. What a lot of responsibilities and effort you are putting in to keep your family healthy and happy. But what about you? what...

Hi I used to think I had too then realised that no matter how much I tried and how much effort I put in it was never good enough and I was always judged. I had to stop thinking that there was something I was doing wrong (I wasn't). I had to start to believe that it is their abusive attitude...

I am just reading A Question of Integrity by Susan Howatch. Watching 'Don't call me crazy' a fly on the wall documentary about kids in mental hospitals (UK might be in USA?) Best wishes Saffy :)

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1. My children and grandchildren 2. my integrity and inner truth, 3. Being able to focus on my own needs for a change 4. being able to stop worrying that others are judging me, they are just not that important or worth the loss of energy. 5. knowing that I am doing the right thing for me...

Hi Gizmo Deepest sympathy to your loss. He is now at peace. That is really good news about your daughters restraining order. Brilliant. Justice at last. Thinking of you :) best wishes Saffy

Hi CH I know exactly how that feels mate :) I could not place it because I kept telling myself that it was my paranoia because he came across so 'nice'. I did not connect my anger with him being the cause at first because I thought I had a friend. I was deceived and just would not except...

HI I agree with all you have said. I was brought up in an abusive household and through this found that the only people I could turn to were my peers, who at the time were not able to give me good advice and support. I Like your balance analogy. It makes perfect sense to me...

Hi Albatross, And are you? :) I find it is up to me to be those things, yes, but I need to recognise certain traits and behaviours in others before I even consider letting them into my life. It is not up to me to change or keep them like me, they need the same qualities and attitude to...

Hi Crazyhorse I think you are beating yourself up far too much. People like this are devious at what they do. They are purely for themselves as we know but it is not your fault she got away with it again, probably not for the first or last time with people in her life. It is a way of...

I have realized after reading some posts that the topic of friends comes up a lot. I thought it would be good to discuss what the qualities of a good or bad friend is. :) I will write down the qualities I like and look for in a friend. 1) They should be trustworthy. I watch how they...

I do not tell my partner. I like to try and keep him for a 'normal' dare I say it, life. One where I know he will support me if needed and someone I can trust to make sure I am happy. To remain that way I try to divide my life. The one where I can be thinking about my past and what...

I agree, You certainly do not look foolish to me. Her own issues caused her behaviour and she has obviously managed to do it before as you say she can get crappy with people when they leave. She will latch onto someone else soon anyway. I had a similar friend. I believed that it...

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I think you should ignore that bit of advice SoL. There is no rule about having to go out and be around loads of people and party all the time. Sorry, but that might be for them but it is not for you. There must be a part of you that actually like your own time? I used to think I...

Fair enough. :) If you feel like that then you have to listen to yourself and decide what will make you feel less anxious and happier and free to get to know yourself and get stronger. :) It certainly helped me. :) stick with these type and take time to connect better. Just enjoy the...

HI Willykat I understand your frustrations. Maybe she is afraid of what she might read. Something that might be easier is to print of a summary criteria for her to look at and reassure her that there is nothing in there to be worried about but it will help if she understood what it meant to...

Hi Alykins Well done for sticking to your guns. Very proud and it showed personal strength to stand up like that. Don't cave to pressure or manipulations, you have every right to assert your needs and wishes and to expect them to respect that. If they cannot the problem is with...

Hi Philippa I understand that when we really feel bad about ourselves, like we are a burden or not worth others time and energy, it is very easy to take the negative side of our thoughts and beliefs. I read on both parts that you say this may be true and is this really true? As you...

Hi SoL I think that is really sad. The people stay around you because they want to. They do have a choice. They stay around because they can see someone in you that you have lost. You certainly do not come across as selfish to me at all. Rather the opposite if you feel that...

Hi All For me finding inner peace came when I got sick of feeling like I did. I suppose I started fighting myself and telling myself to be more positive. Recognise what it is like to feel positive. I told myself I hated feeling like I am not worthy, I started to tell myself I was...

Let us not forget that no body on here is a professional and can find some stories a trigger and react accordingly. We are all going through our own personal trauma and each one differs from person to person. Whilst disclosing things online is a brave and trusting thing to do it pays to...