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So much of what is in this post resonates. I wish I'd found a conversation like this years ago. My dad also enjoyed making family uncomfortable while photos were taken. He'd secretly grope my mom, while she felt trapped, smiling for the camera.

I don't want to start therapy again. I don't want to deal with this shit. f*ck everything

I've been around the forums for a long time now and never seen a thread that focuses on this and I'm very grateful for it. I have to head off to work in a moment so don't have much time to reply but I very much relate. The thing that stays with me the most, is the things my dad said while...

you've already gotten a lot of good advice. have you ever done other things against your moral code? If so, how did you deal with those feelings after the fact? Thinking about that might help process this experience. I understand that it's very hard to talk about it. It was brave to make this...

That must feel so great. That makes me happy for you.

I'm curious as to how you are doing. We've been talking about the impacts on the person you know, which is a legitmate concern. Yet, you are posting about it in a PTSD forum. It's completely possible this has stirred up issues or triggered you. Are you ok?

The response may vary based on culture. My response, as someone from the US, was a strong "no, that's not ok." The important thing is the student felt uncomfortable and it was an adult so there's a power differential. It should be discussed with someone within the school who can respond...

This I can definitely relate to. And not wanting or connecting to my body has done me so much harm over the years. I think I'll always have to work at staying engaged with my body. Like you, the abuse started when I was so little. It's just so easy to disconnect. I've done a similar exercise...

This is incredibly wise. those are hard feelings I think your relationship can be looked at as more than a mere lesson though. I am assuming it had good times which matter even if right now the hurt is too big to feel it.

I don't tell them. The only exception was when I was having an invasive procedure and even then I didn't really say much beyond I had anxiety about the procedure. I don't know if that's the right way to proceed. I guess I learned too well to hide it.

@scout86 I am glad it was such a positive experience for you. That sounds wonderful.

Have you heard of enthusiastic consent? It has some good concepts? One of the things that silence is not consent and that you have to keep giving consent. With my husband and I, we talk during and often after. We've learned how to make it a fun part of our sexual relationship. It helps prevent...

heh, I used to tell people, "I don't have an inner child, because I always kept my child out." I'm in one my stages where I don't really believe I have DID. IF I did, it's possible I have several inner children and feel differently and communicate differently (if at all) with each of them. If I...

I'm low on words, but wanted to pop in and add that I am a fawner. I get feeling sorry for people who caused me harm. I have learned though, to have healthy boundaries. It's not my job to rescue everyone or even to make people happy.

Going back to the original question, I would probably have a mixed response. It would also depend on how well I knew the person. Because I remember how much I minimized, and did not understand my own abuse, I know that people can say something that seems normal or minor when what they really...

Feeling some of this. Also, just so overwhelmed with life, I don't have bandwidth. This is where I fall into old thought patterns. "I am just making excuses. I'm not trying hard enough. I'm lazy" blah blah blah. And then some acquaintances were talking about politics and one guy was saying how...

*sigh* I probably should have known better than making this thread. I appreciate that it can easily get into touchy topics. I completely understand if it does get shutdown

That sounds like a horrible time. How are you doing now?

Just to clarify, I am not planning to move to another country. I want to have the option, though. I don't like feeling trapped. Also, we've been invited on a trip in May. We might have our expenses paid by our friends. (We can't afford it otherwise). I don't know if we'd accept that offer, or...

Fair enough, I know some people enjoy politics. It may be your communication style that makes it seem like you are black/white thinking. You tend to speak in absolutes and fairly strong descriptive language. For example, I believe I've seen you say a couple of times, that Americans identify...

I am going to leave politics to the side and point out that I hear a lot of black/white thinking happening. Americans.... <statement>. Dems ... <statement>. Those are both vasts groups of people with a lot of variation. As this is @anthony diary, he is welcome to talk about whatever he wants. I...

Thanks. Tat and I have talked about most of what is going on. The only thing we haven't talked through fully is the worst case, get out of the country any way we can, scenario. I have tried to have a serious talk, instead just cracking jokes that he's let pass as jokes. He's had a lot going on...

I appreciate all the replies. I have read them and appreciate them. And send support to anyone who is also struggling. heh, yes. And my brain has churned away at this. I have an idea on getting it done. Obviously we are not at that point, but I think my idea would work. I can't really tell...

I had been doing better at limiting my news intake but the last few days have slipped on that. Brains are dumb. I'm stressed so I look at things that stress me. On a positive side, I've become part of a group which makes me feel less powerless. @Friday your reply was super helpful and has...

I am really happy you got such a positive response. I hope it brings you some healing.