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Well he moved out. Finally I couldn't take any more. Unfortunatley he still has a bunch of things here. Its as if he is dragging this out. I have been firm and told him to get it out but he always has an excuse. Not to mention he owes me money and doesn't seem to have that either. When it...

We will be living together for 2 more months. At this point it is what we have to do money wise to make things right. Most of the time he is gone anyway. He was leaving for a couple of days at a time before I broke things off. I guess now he is looking into getting help. This weekend he is...

Thanks Shoka and Amethist! Each day is hard for me harder then it was when I was in the relationship! I wake up every day sick to my stomache. Today Im trying to stop looking back. I left him all the cards he ever gave me on his computer. I can't go back and read them anymore. All it does is...

Congrats Pandora! Getting a house is such a happy time in life! Thats after you sign your name 100 times lol.

Well last week I broke things off with him. I was and still am heart broken. Nothing he says to me makes any sense. I love him with all my heart but a person can only put in so much effort and get nothing back for so long. We were together for 1 year and 9 months. We are living together as...

Happy Memorial Day to all! And to those that served our country my heart goes out to you all!!!

Hi desperate, I know its easier said then done but don't take it personally. My bf can't remember what day of the week it is half the time let alone holidays. I could tell him someones birthday is coming up and then remind him the week before and he will be in shock like he can't believe it...

Hi Amethist, He says with all this time he has been spending away he sees what his mom is doing. If he buys a house with her for her whatever it may be it truely is over between us! We had plans and are one year away from getting a house together. If he does it for her we will never be able...

I can't believe this! His miserable mother is behind some of this. Its not just his ptsd. She has been causing problems for months now. She has been no support to him and he will be the first to tell you that. She plays him and his older sister against each other all the time. Ugh its awfull...

All so true actions speak louder than words! While my boyfriend is not abusive to me the up and down ride can wear a person down. It he himself that will not allow himself or us to be happy. Im not sure if he will ever realise that as he seems to get sucked back into all the family drama. I...

Shecat and Sunnybrookfarms, Thank you both for your replies! You are correct where ever he is in his head right now isn't a place were he is listening to me. He does have to see it and do it for himself. I was just thinking maybe there was a way to say it or word it without causing him stress...

Nicolette, I did set boundry lines this is why he is leaving. I told him 2 months ago he needed counceling, we needed couples counceling, and he needed to go away for treatment. Well he did none of the above. I told him if he doesnt do it we wont work. This is why he is leaving. Im not going...

Hi veterangirl08, This happens my bf and I have been together for 1 year and 9 months now. Like you things were amazing the best ever. They love like no other is how i like to put it. Just like with you one day the switch went off. You will have great days because the are great and you will...

Clare, Hang in there! Know you are doing the right thing for your son to keep him safe. One of the hardest things in life is being a parent. We want the best for our children and sometime the best hurts us. Right now focus on keeping your son safe!

Hi I'm posting here to see if any suffers can tell me what to say of how to go about it. My bf ptsd is out of control right now. He hasn't been to counceling in so long and desperately needs to go. He doesn't even realize how bad things are for him right now. I know he has to be the one to...

Junebug and Fin, Thanks everything you say make sence. I guess when we are the ones in a certain situation and have emotions wrapped up in it, it becomes hard to have a clear understanding. I am trying to take care of myself which is something I have to admit I didnt do for a long time. I...

I am finding that I am so stressed because one minute he is leaving the next he doesn't know. He is very confused and lost so lost he is becoming mean to me. Im just trying to figure out the bill situation if he leaves me high and die in two weeks. Should I not talk about it and wait for him...

Sky dancer, I'm happy for you! My bf has blown off both places he was supposed to go to. They were 5 day centers to help with ptsd. His response is whats 5 days going to do for me! Nothing but negative he cant see the positive. Its really nice to hear someone say it can help!

Hi Desperate, My boyfriend is the same lazy hits the nail on the head! I cant remember the last time he washed a dish but can complain the minute he sees one dirty. Or when he got our first dog he had to have it all about it but who cleans up after it? And now the puppy same deal. Laundry he...

Nicolette, That it is! He even knows hes not right with his thinking. Make rash decision purchasing expensive un necessary items. The sadest part is when they can't listen to you as a carer the one they are closest to! When Im saying you need counceling it helped you before and he is so...

Hi Desperate, You are right! I told my boyfriend in counceling one time that he started to use ptsd as an excuse for everything. His doctor asked me for examples and agreed with me. So did his pain clinic doctor. I told him I cant help him all I can do is support him he has to help himself...

Thanks Nicolette and Claire! I'm just lost and overwhelmed at this time. I don't really know what to think or believe at this time. I do know that I have to think of my kids as he isn't!

I don't understand all he keeps saying is he didn't think it was going to this way when he left! He says he does'nt want to hurt me! I told him that him leaving is what is hurting me! I just don't understand at this time how we went to having something so beautiful to him walking away! All I...

I don't even know what to say! He wants to leave and get a place of his own. We have been here before but he really means it. So fine he can go. He thinks he will get better having his own place. Mind you he no longer goes to counceling nor has the desire to. He is in a bad place in his head...

Welcome to the forum Jay! My bf served 2 tours in Iraq. He was retired at the age or 29! The things you are talking about with your mood changing is how he is. Before he recieved help he was even worse. Even now his sleep patterns are off. At times he goes a couple of days without sleep. Lots...