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Thanks…was typo in last line (meant ‘everything’) I’ve lived with fluctuating levels of cptsd for nearly 20yrs, this time it’s more the medical side that’s coming up, there’s been incidents over the last couple of decades and incident 8mths ago set of the full blown trauma response. I had to do...

Covers a few areas. Flaring at present, not helpful by some of my clinicians trying to dictate/mandate certain treatments etc in an uninformed way despite claiming they’re being trauma informed. Spoke with psychologist today and part of what we’ve worked out is doing a graded exposure plan with...

Thank you. So good things I can step back and consider. Regarding weaning off the meds, enough times the previous psychiatrist left me discharged without follow up where I couldn’t wean off and had to go cold turkey with physical withdrawals; though given my physical health conditions that...

I’ve found a mix of things helpful and I do think that a certain amount of healing/recovery can take place without a therapist. Trauma therapists should know better than to pressure you into discussing your trauma and definitely should be focusing on skills rather than dismissing requests. At...

Hey. Struggling right now with not just the cptsd flare but the medical traumas recently that triggered the flare and the flashbacks of previous medical traumas and the unexpected letter from my narc father I have no contact with. I tried voicing to my clinicians that they were making the...

Hey all, Had a few triggers the last couple of weeks which have really thrown me, especially already being in a cptsd flare. By chance one of these was a letter from my narc father (if not full NPD like my primary doctor said then definitely strong narc traits). My mother is challenging but in...

Thank you. I’ve done a lot to try to ensure I parent differently to the styles of toxic parenting I received without going to extremes. Yes there’s techniques including fur therapy, sensory tools, etc I usually use when triggered, though with so many triggers right now they’re not very effective...

Hey…short version (I hope). I’ve been no contact with my biological father for years, took me wanting to protect my son from his narcissism to make the move but best thing I could’ve done with this ‘man’. So not for the first time he’s breached the no contact, though has been a few years since...

lol…preamble helped actually and gave me a chuckle as I like to organise things and categorise them, I can usually tell my son exactly where to find something of mine down to which cupboard, shelf, side of shelf etc 🤷‍♀️ I wasn’t sure what would come out in the writing, only a couple of things I...

Hi. Not sure where to put this. Short version, a medical trauma around new years set off a major flare of my cptsd, and has complicated matters with mptsd. This wasn’t first time I’ve experienced trauma at the hands of or in the care of clinicians, but seems it opened the floodgates and I have...

I can’t always step back especially with my mother, however sometimes when I know I’m going to see her and it’s possible (ok with her it’s probable) that I’ll get wound up or triggered I bring a couple of sensory things with me, including an essential oil I find calming which I put a blob of...

You asked is it normal, it’d say it’s not unusual. When I split off from a DV relationship I had to stay in the same town and basically went into hiding, however doing so I ended up doing ok for a few months with only visiting indoors with safe people, and shopping the other side of town to...

Supposition, I’d guess that we became so accustomed to certain things that that in combination with it being about us can cause a kind of blind spot at times, where hearing another say the same thing has enough separation that it can trigger a realisation of reality. I had certain things that I...

Whilst probably true that they were trying to get out of a restraining grasp, they doesn’t take away that you asked them to stop and they didn’t, and whilst of course alcohol interferes with inhibition of oneself, it’s also true that it’s triggered your trauma response (not an overreaction, it’s...

Hang in there and get support, not just from us but ideally any treatment team you have. I cut off from my father, and he had a disability too (different, traumatic brain injury before I was born) and I was conditioned including culturally to be extra nice etc because of his ‘challenges’, but he...

My girls love outings, and yes our kitten sometimes thinks she’s a dog

We all think about what things would’ve or could’ve been if things had been different, and it’s not easy processing that, even now I’m grateful my baby cousin (only a couple of years older than my child) never went through what I did yet I can’t help moments of jealousy that she got much of what...

It takes time and trauma informed treatment, but yes things can definitely improve. Some clinicians without experience working with trauma can feel stuck themselves in how to best help, though most if that’s the case will say they don’t have enough experience with x and offer to recommend or...

I think so, anxiety can be debilitating though alone is less likely to be than things like ptsd, and that a symptom (self harm) was given a status and the status higher than something like ptsd.

I have been around people in acute psychotic episodes and yes sometimes it’s scary to watch (my first female catheter was on a newly admitted and restrained drug induced psychosis episode/patient), and yes some never recover, some end up committing serious crimes in that state, and some a trauma...

Thanks joeylittle…once I calmed down a bit I was able to step back more and recognise it as ignorance from the person in question, especially given so many clinicians, even if some level of trauma awareness training, are clueless about so much. Between homework I debriefed with my son’s GP (he’s...

Interesting. I disagree with the idea of no free will. Yes there’s conditioning, societal and cultural influences, genetics, environment, etc, yet for example most CSA survivors don’t repeat to become perps, yet most pedophiles were victims of CSA. For whatever combination of reasons they chose...

I can’t tell you how to deal with this other than give it time, and as terrifying as it can be to feel emotions, let yourself and know that they will pass even if feeling very strong or overwhelming at first, and take it in your own time. I still don’t want pity/sympathy, but over time I learned...

Hey…I got a bit triggered by someone with lived experience of MH challenges saying anxiety and ptsd are ‘less severe’ than psychosis. Perception in government and society might claim that but I’m sure I’m not the only one who found ptsd/cptsd to be so debilitating it stopped me leaving my home...

I have a very trusted GP and ironically I couldn’t bring up sex with any therapist, however I was able to speak with him about it when I was in a solid relationship and struggling with wanting to explore consenting sex with my partner though struggling with flashbacks when I became aroused...