TL;DR Ugh
1. Must walk the pooch because T storms forecasted tonight.
2. I am terrified of TStorms & deluge rain. :( :cry:
3. ((((((
@jaccat ))))))
4. I realized today my abusive 'best friend' of 10 years was abusive because I wouldn't sleep with him- not because I did (we weren't bf/gf, not DV). I know how tht sounds, but he actually said as much- constantly. First time I remembered all that, last night & today. I didn't go out with him when he asked but we became friends- best friends- because he reminded me of my dad's humour & build (6' 2" or 3") I guess-I hadn't grieved anything, & I was only about 3 months post lots of maladaptive stuff I'd stopped, trying to change my life, stopped them mostly all, went back to church, started University etc, & he offered to help me with some Chem labs I had missed, after hours when the labs were closed (he was older than me). He went on to be abusive in all ways, & demeaning/ demoralizing. I mean, he'd be abusive to anyone I suppose? (out of sight, anyway?), but it was escalating with mostly me (& strangers when he was drinking/ very drunk by the end). Was worse than even with his gf. He was filled with rage. He used to use broken beer bottles. It came to me last night he had some warning signs of being pretty ~psycho/ unconsionable in ways. Hated women.
5. Can't believe I revealed that ^^ . Where's the shame icon.
1. At least it's been a while. Much time.
2. I awsn't naive I was devastated, & kind. And had so much else to contend with. Ugh. :( I never thought he would be insulted or want to 'make me pay for it'. Or perhaps rather, just = anger/ rage. And his best friend when we first met told me don't go out with him, & said (he) wanted to ask me out but wouldn't because he 'was afraid to' (because of him). I didn't even want to go out I just wanted to escape the pain & get my degree.
3. Ugh. Stupid stupid stupid stupid thoughts. :yuck:
4. But it was my fault to stay but not my fault he was abusive.
5. I'm so sorry for writing all of that. Thank you for letting me, though. (
@Cj77 esp :hug: )