50 Minutes A Week Is Not Enough

[somerandomguy]

I've just completed my first moth of serious trauma therapy. (I've been in therapy before, including very recerntly, but it was not geared towards dealing with trauma).

I can't tell if it's just my impatience with the process - I just want to be all better NOW, if not yesterday - but I feel like one session a week is not cutting it. I feel like I'm moving imperceptibly slowly. Oddly, I have never felt this way before in all my many years of therapy. Sometimes I even wish I could do a check-in daily.

Anyone else ever feel this way? Thoughts?

 

[CCurry]

Hey SRG,

I'm only a carer but I can tell you before my bf started his therapy his therapist strongly recommended 90 minute sessions once per week as well he does another 60 minute session once a week with her associate. He is working towards stabilization, he's not there yet and its been 2 months now BUT he's a lot better than 2 months ago, they notice it and I can see it too.

Good luck and great question.

 

[Pixie]

Hi SRG

I have been at that point often. At one stage I was doing a weekly visit with my GP, Psych and a Counselor but it was too much in the end and just made things worse. I recognise the impatience and understand it completely but while it will take time to process, the feeling of wanting to get better quickly will hopefully spur you on to continue to want to go, and that is important.

The thing to remember is that during the times you aren't in therapy, you can do other things to help yourself and discover things about yourself. Relying on a therapist too much is detrimental I believe because while they are there to support you and help, the real work is going on inside you.

My suggestion would be to try and start a journal and write in it as much as you can. This will help you to recognise the things that you want to work on and research and read and think... do lots of those things. Observe yourself and your behavior and reactions and then try and figure out the why and how of it. That way, you can discuss these self explorations with your therapist and your therapy will be even more beneficial to you. Just my opinion though...

Rell

 

[2quilt]

If you think you need more therapy, start a trauma diary here on this website as a release of your feelings, join a local support group or start one, and express your feelings as often as possible. You seem ready to heal and face the pain.

 

[bonnecanyon]

SRG

Just the fact that you are feeling impatient makes me think that you are "ready." Ready to deal with your trauma, ready to heal. And that is a good sign. I think your therapy may even go faster because you are so ready. You will open up more quickly and you will process more quickly. So don't be too hard on yourself, you are in a great place. I usually make an extra appointment once or twice a month to keep the edge off and it seems to help.

In between appointments, I come to the forum and read and share with other sufferers - that keeps me grounded and my thoughts in perspective as well.

I wish you the best on your journey.

BC

 

[Deleted member 541]

Don't be so impatient with yourself and with your progress. We all need do digest, what we spill out in therapy....Give yourself the time to digest.....I too, recommend that you might was to start a trauma diary. It really helps....Sometimes even jogs the memory, into remembering new things, or things that we had forgotten about.....

 

[Mina]

Would your therapist be responsive to doing twice-weekly sessions in the short term? I've done that several times when whatever we've delved into a session needs more immediate or prolonged attention than waiting a full week.

 

[somerandomguy]

Well, here's an update ... out of the blue at the end of my session yesterday, my therapist said that I was doing a good job and that he'd like to start seeing me twice a week. :clap:

I'm glad we're on the same wavelength!

 

[anni]

Hi Someguy,

Your posts and replies from everyone made me smile again. Since you joined it's just been so clear you SO wanted to get better and boy are you working hard. Nice job. :) I like the sounds of your therapist since he was able to pick up on the signals that you could deal with a term of twice-weekly sessions.

Take care,

Anni