A Letter To My Ex Whom I Love But Do Not Want To Burden With My Ptsd

[Tinyflame]

I'm not sure (for me) if it's about 'worthy' or not, but definitely not good (for me) to stick around.

 

[simplekindofgirl]

Junebug- you are so eloquent. And you are so spot on with your thoughts. I have often thought of withdrawing from my relationship because of how difficult it is for my supporter. But then I remember, if he wants out, he knows how to ask. Only he knows what is best for him. Other times, I feel this way because it is so difficult for me to have someone who does not understand, and is not always entirely willing to take the time to understand. But my thought process- it does come down to what you suggested, only I know what is best for me- in that case, I choose to stay.

 

[LMM7040]

OMG. I'm soo sorry. I meant maybe you're NOT the burden you think you are. I was thinking faster than I could type.

 

[Tinyflame]

Dear LMM7040- No Worries- I thought of that- truly I did, that you might have meant to say that. But, even if you meant otherwise you are still entitled to your opinion, and mine would be the same- I'd rather know honestly from anyone if I am a burden. PTSD is nasty, ugly, and can be soul-and-life-destroying - no one is ever 'expected' to find that necessarily tolerable, even at it's 'peripheries'.

To be honest, at many times (or really, always), I really don't know how anyone can have enough kindness or compassion or patience to.

I apologize if you (or your comment) felt 'attacked'.
Actually, I think it just brought up a good 'point'/ topic! Think I can safely say most of us can 'relate'.

(((Hugs)))), if you accept them. :inlove:

 

[LMM7040]

Junebug,
(((hugs back))):inlove:. I think everyone has his/her own issues. People deal with things differently. I don't know what its like to suffer from PTSD or even going threw whatever caused it. We all derserve kindness and compassion. I wish I would have found this site sooner.

 

[simplekindofgirl]

LMM7040- It brought up a great discussion, and introspect. You know, and we all know that there are people out there who do not face ptsd with compassion, and that is an important lesson in living with it. You can not buy that kind of therapy! Anything that helps us to improve our way of thinking is a good thing. It actually helped me put my own thoughts about my relationship into feelings, and real words, which I haven't been able to do in a long, long, long time. It was a good error in the end, at least for me.

(((LMM7040)))

 

[LMM7040]

I just wish I knew how to effectively communicate with mine. I really happy I found this forum too bad it wasn't a day earlier.