General A Little Progress

[Lovemyman]

Well after almost two weeks of my fiancé packing up all his stuff and leaving me with no warning he finally text me. It wasn't the response I wanted but it was a response. Said he wanted to be left alone and didn't want to see or talk to anyone and sent another text that said he would continue to make my car payment.

I'm still encouraged and have backed off and giving him his stuff. I still send him a text once a day that says I love you and hope you are ok. I'm hoping that I'll hear from him soon. It'll be three weeks this coming up Wednesday since I've seen him and it's killing me but I also know that I've got to get myself together so when I do see him I won't be a mess. I pray everyday that God stands with him and helps him see that he does have a support group his family that loves him.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

My heart goes out to you. You are being wise giving him his space. Now is the time to focus on you and live your own life and try to keep busy. To pamper yourself and treat yourself for you deserve it. Big hugs. Good luck with the outcome, I hope it eventually works out for you.

 

[Lovemyman]

Thank you I hope it all works out also. I love him very much and I know he loves me. I'm trying to take care of myself but it's still hard.

 

[Trembling]

It is hard, we all know, but right now the best help is to take care of yourself!

Good luck!

 

[Lovemyman]

I'm trying. I had to go and cancel the layaway we had on our wedding bands. I broke down crying in the store. I didn't want to lose the deposits and payment that was made and I can't afford the payment. I know it's just things and they can be replaced but it feels like I'm shutting the door but I'm not.

His kids are adult age and I'm trying to talk to them because they are mad that he's not responding to them now. I'm thinking this is his first major episode and he's not handling it well. His kids don't understand and haven't read and researched like I have.

His father his not happy either and he's not familiar with PTSD either. Most of this is because my fiancé downplayed it and told everyone he had it under control and him being the "man" he is everyone took him at his word.

I hope to get a chance to let him know that I've read and have talked with some and am ready to be here for him.

 

[Lovemyman]

I got a text from my fiancé yesterday that says when he gets back in the state he will get with me for a meet. I asked how long would he be and he said he didn't know and that I shouldn't call or text anymore. I don't know what to think. I told him ok and as long as he's willing to get with me at some point I'll honor his wishes as hard as it will be.

I don't know what to make or think. Of course my mind is running 90 to nothing of all kinda of scenarios. Guess I've gor to wait on him as I have been over 3 weeks now.