Relationship A Reminder To Sufferers Posting In This Section

[Nicolette]

I wrote the post below awhile ago and think it needs to be brought back to the attention of some Sufferers (not all) that respect is a two way street and while we welcome your input here, it is a Supporters section so please be considerate that the shoe is on the other foot.

Just a reminder to the Sufferers who are posting here - this is the Carers section & while your input is appreciated there is a fine line between offering an opinion & demeaning others who are trying to understand PTSD. Please remember that this side of the fence involves learning, asking questions with little real insight to how someone with PSTD Suffers or their behavior.

 

[Noa]

I understand, but what you might define as 'demeaning' others might define as honest.

 

[amethist]

Noa, we as supporters are very respectful and careful when we post in reply to any sufferer's thread. We expect the same in return.

So please be careful how you reply to us.

 

[Nicolette]

I understand, but what you might define as 'demeaning' others might define as honest.

Noa it's not about being honest - it's about respecting "who's house you are in". I am sure that if we came into the Sufferer section and commented from our perspective it wouldn't be appreciated if it made you feel that we were dismissing your feelings or what you were saying because we believed it was honest.

I am not asking you not to post here but I am asking you to remember that this section is for Supporters so their views and opinions are allowed and not to be dismissed by a PTSD Sufferer.

This section is so a collective group of like minded and experienced people can talk about their struggles from their perspective. They are not here to be told their problems are minimal due to how bad PSTD is, as while this may be true for you, it is not their truth as their suffering is at the hands of PTSD and not the monster itself so all they know is what they have experienced.

No-one can really understand PTSD without having it...and if that is your greatest pain then that is what is worst for you. If the greatest pain you have ever had in your life is a broken bone well then that is what is worst for you. Factually one is greater than the other but the person with the broken leg is allowed to talk, express and share their feelings, frustrations etc without it being dismissed by someone with PTSD just because "its a broken leg".

 

[Loveneverfails]

I think anyone with a growing view on what it means to have PTSD should be able to recognize how tough it is to love someone with PTSD. It is many times a thankless job, I'm sure. I know I'm not easy to live with even on my best days. I think it's important as sufferers to remember that just because a supporter is struggling with a problem that hits a little too close to home for us, they aren't *our* supporters and it isn't a personal attack.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I have found I learn alot from the supporters. I think they are a very loving, caring, smart, and sensitive people. They are very encouraging. I would hate to see them get hurt in this healing place. They get hurt enough as being supportives. They have a special place in my heart and teach me so much about good self care and being patient and respectful. Thanks for bringing this one up Nicolette.

 

[Enigma66]

I think it's important as sufferers to remember that just because a supporter is struggling with a problem that hits a little too close to home for us, they aren't *our* supporters and it isn't a personal attack.

There seems to be a big gaping hole between those suffering from PTSD and those who love and support their partners with PTSD, and never the twain shall meet....

 

[Loveneverfails]

There seems to be a big gaping hole ....and never the twain shall meet

I'm not sure I understand.

 

[ashdawn8287]

I agree Noa, I guess honesty isn't the best policy on here? Hm no wonder no one is getting help.

 

[nimkekaa]

Hm no wonder no one is getting help.

Different opinions are welcome but putting down the forum and those that spend hours trying to run it fairly in not helpful to anyone's healing.

There are other forums if this one is not a good fit for your needs but I hope you take some time to see that this forum has a lot to offer. The rules are just to keep things safe for everyone.

 

[ashdawn8287]

Everyone keeps going on about it, I'm over it. I didn't put the forum down I placed an opinion. It's not helping that everyone is bringing this up. Again, I'm over it.

 

[JustBe]

I for one am receiving a tremendous amount of help from this forum not only from fellow sufferers but from supporters as well.