DID Accepting did

[Punky143]

My T and "us" are working on accepting my multiple psych dx and more general, me. It's hard. We don't understand how it's even possible. Some parts can consider it while others want to fight it. Or its more of a black and white view. T says that the more focus on trying to fight the system, it only creates heightened anxiety, depression and everything else.
So how do I get this "radical acceptance" mindset? Does it mean if I just let it be, then go ahead and switch and talk without caring what others view me as? I hate who I was and who I am today. I can't conceive how to "radically accept" some monster who assaulted my child and traumatized me or "radically accept" I hit a child with my car or "radically accept" I rolled over in my car and landed upside down and walked away with no injuries. The list continues.
Any thoughts or suggestions will be appreciated.

 

[Sunshineturtle]

It took me a long time to accept, or just stop fighting it. It is harder on some days than others, but, the bigger issue is the trauma you have suffered. I don't tell people, they don't really need to know. I just work on the traumas to heal. Healing is the most important thing. The rest, that will work itself out. Who wants to be like everyone else anyway? I also draw. It helps.

 

[FireSign8]

None of us can change things we have done or seen from the past. All we can do is to accept the here & now & move on into the"tomorrow" phase of life. I finally learned how to accept each moment as it comes & not dwell on the shit from the past. Perhaps that's what your therapist was referring to as "radical acceptance". There was a time in my life that only the past mattered & I thought it defined me. I was hell bent on making things right & it was taking over my life. I had no power to go back in time to right ANY of those wrongs that my head & heart were holding onto to. It was radical to let go of so much BS that was taking the air out of my life & causing me to smother in bad memories. Hope that helps a bit. I still know I did some crappy stuff to people in the past, but I no longer allow it to ruin my present day life by dwelling on it for more than a second or two.

 

[whiteraven]

It took me a very long time to accept my diagnosis and the notion that I was a "we" - even though it made perfect sense and things kind of fell into place once someone acknowledged that. It has taken a lot longer to come to understand and accept that suffering is a very real part of life and that until we learn to stop fighting it and instead embrace it, we will never find relief from it. In Western culture, we are taught to run from suffering, to avoid it at all costs, to suppress it, to take pills or drink alcohol to make it go away. But that really doesn't get at the root of it. That only covers it up for awhile. It's only when we start to take an honest look at it that we can begin to understand and come to terms with it.

I still struggle with a lot of pain for the stuff that has happened. But I don't hold on so tightly to it. It visits, I see it coming and notice, then I just let it go. That's all it's getting from me.