General Advice On Ptsd, Video Games W/ Buddies

[Llith]

That is not acceptable. Sorry but you are the mum of one of his children and soon to be of another, and he won't even give you the time of day.

I understand isolating from issues, I understand a lot of stuff regarding hiding, and people constantly playing video games (my boyfriend often does exactly the same thing --> headphones on, I become invisible) HOWEVER, before he does that, every day he asks me if that is all right and if there is anything else I wanted to do with him instead. Most of the time I don't ask for much, and its never been an issue working that way round.

Having no communication and him acting like you don't exist makes me really angry for you, sorry I get mega defensive sometimes LOL. URGH. It sounds like talking to him isn't going to do you much good, have you discussed how he has been acting in therapy? Maybe you can come up with a way to get through to him, or an action plan for if you can't. Because you cannot spend your whole life waiting for him to get his together. *grumble grumble grumble*

I am really sorry you are going through this, PTSD or no, you cannot just hide from the people you live with. Its unhealthy and it hurts people.

 

[Faith1234]

Well my situation has not gotten any better, so I have decided to just give him space. I am due with his child in 2 1/2 mths. and it is now at the point to where he sleeps downstairs does not talk to me, nothing.. Me being pregnant I just cant do this right now.. I am a emotional wreck! I talked to my therapist and she thinks what I'm doing is a good thing.. I need to build a stable environment for me and my kids, and live my life the best I can.. I cant help him.. His next therapy appointment is not until the end of May.. That is where they will decide medication etc.. Can he get in sooner? yes but hes not going to spend the money and time to drive 45 mins to do it..." So he says" due to a bad experience with the VA last year. So everything is just up in the air.. It just stinks cause we have gender reveal pictures this weekend and a birthing class that is already paid for that I set up before things got worse.. and now I'm going to be doing these things by myself. :(
He got drunk 2 weeks ago, and said some really nice sweet things gave me a big hug and kissed me on my forehead.. but the next day it went right back. He doesn't drink very often... but to see him a point of caring and being sweet was the first time in I couldn't tell you how many months.. but over the past 2 weeks its just gotten worse.. hes not abusive or anything..
All this is just really too much for me right now..
I went down stairs ove rthis past weekend to check the cat litter and it was literally disgusting!! The 2 cat litter boxes had to be changed completely.. In which I'm pregnant, " not suppose to change cat litter".. well I told him I had to go get more cat litter cause the boxes needed to be completely changed. He said ok and continued to sit on the love seat down stairs with head phones on and playing on his lap top.. So I got back, carrying 2 / 20lbs boxes of cat litter down stairs walked right past him, he saw me.. Did not say anything, didn't help nothing.. SO I went over to the cat litter boxes and just held my breath and dumped them myself etc.. then walked past him again.. with 2 brown paper bags full of the nasty cat litter and took it up stairs and out in to the trash bin.
Later that night I noticed I shouldn't have done that because I hurt my back.
I literally just am going to go where I have support and help right now for my last 2 1/2 mths of pregnancy.. Cause it doesn't matter how much I'm here or how much I try to support him, it makes no difference. :(