Am I Being A Prude, Or Overly Sensitive?

[somerandomguy]

I'm not laying blame on any of the people who do sex work. I know how men look at them, and if 50% of humanity have a point of view, that view is going to carry some weight in the world.

Wow, nice way to generalize an entire gender. It's obvious you're writing from a place of pain, but that attitude is hostile and unacceptable.

 

[Dana1010]

It's obvious you're writing from a place of pain

Snide much? Are you taking a dig at what you assume is my level of experience and therefore proving my point?

 

[Ed Norton]

@Dana1010
Would you care to explain and elaborate what you mean by the following?

@Eleanor, please don't be so gullible. As I said, a lot of the happy talk about sex work that is so in vogue these days comes from men who are rationalizing their consumption of something that exacts a price from the providers that is not remotely commensurate to their compensation. "Look how happy the sex workers are! Happy, happy sex workers! Now let me pay my bill and get the f#$k out of here, you f*%king loser."

 

[Dana1010]

I'm sorry. I don't see what there is to explain. It is my point of view, and you are quite free to disagree.

Respectfully,
Dana

 

[Ed Norton]

I understand you have a right to your opinions...but I really just don't understand what you mean, I perhaps took it the wrong way. You don't have to elaborate. But I took it as an aspersion against me. Since my name is mentioned. @Dana1010

 

[Dana1010]

@Ed Norton, I wouldn't worry about it. It was a generalization, not aimed at you specifically.

 

[somerandomguy]

@Ed Norton, I wouldn't worry about it. It was a generalization, not aimed at you specifically.

Oh, and now the walking back begins. On the contrary, what you said is very personal, and was aimed directly at him, me, and all male users of this website.

I'm not sure why you're even here. I'm sure there must be a safe place where you can rant about men all you like someplace on the internet. This is not the place. And your half-assed "apology" to Ed is not an apology to me. Let's hear your shitty excuse for saying what you said against me and the rest of the male abuse survivors on this board ... oh wait, you "don't see what there is to explain."

I'd block you, but I can't wait to see which foot you put in your mouth next.

 

[Anarchy]

http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-zCHu29nVK...Mdo/t6vGtQo_QOE/s1600/mqq5a9LlUi1syitgfo1.png Hmmm, you think?

 

[Ronin]

I'm not all that sure we need to resort to misogynist memes trashing movements that help survivors all over while dealing with a chick that obviously has issues with responsibility, though. I mean, it's not like feminists are at fault for this. It's not like women are at fault for this. That Dana has an attitude issue isn't a reflection on anybody else, either.

 

[intothelight]

I think this thread is interesting as it is titled "Am I Being A Prude Or Overly Sensitive". @RussH , you are being neither as you are expressing your views and there is nothing wrong with your opinion, nor is there anything wrong with the differing opinions as they are the beliefs of individuals. They is a broad spectrum of what is OK on many topics, but at some point, the majority within a society will set boundaries on what is or is not OK and just how broad that spectrum is allowed to be.

Personally, the I find the cover sad. We live in a society that finds sexualization acceptable and "normal", but honestly if I sat in a store that sold this issue and breastfed a child (without being fully covered), I would create such a stir and in some areas subject myself to removal or possible legal action. No this isn't a post on breastfeeding, but it is to point out how skewed our collective thinking can be as a society. We don't live in a society that idealizes the human body, what we idealize is sex.

 

[Dana1010]

@Anarchy, what I'm saying actually goes against the standard feminist narrative that if people just got used to the idea of women "being sexual" there would be no more negative consequences than there are for men. I am not an anti feminist, but my view on this subject is more in line with the anti feminists of the manosphere of all places. Strange bedfellows.

Also, I'm not bashing men anymore than evolutionary psychologists, Robert Wright, Steven Pinker, and David Buss are bashing them when they write that the virgin/whore dichotomy is an evolved reproductive strategy. I'm sure it varies on a continuum just like all other human traits. But if you jump into something expecting the exception, prepare to be slapped in the face with the rule--in other words, I would strongly discourage anyone getting into sex work knowing what the rule is.

Nature isn't nice. I'm sure that there are some rude strategies that women use for choosing mates--I saw data collected from dating sites showing that women think 80% of men are below average. If you do not conform to a norm, then simply count yourself as an exception--it's not necessary to deny the norm in the face of all evidence.

 

[Ronin]

@Dana1010, you're going with theories that only discourage women from being active in the field they choose to.

That's not protecting women. If you wanted to protect anyone, you'd look for the ways how to help them be safe in what they *want* to do.