Am I Being Unreasonable? Or Is He?

[reddevil1111]

maybe you need to set up one or two times per week you can chat or call. Limit the amount of time you talk to create a closer bond. If you constantly talk,chat,email you can feel smothered. I dont own a mobile. I dont do much email anymore. I do write letters some. But even that is hard to do. I run out of stuff to say very fast. I agree with the others... to much/ to fast is the real problem. Good Luck.

 

[Need an Oasis]

Thanks again, Jimmy, you said it perfectly, that is how I feel sometimes. I go to bed fine and wake up in a funk.

I agree, reddevil, too much is the problem for me. The psychiatrist says we are at opposite ends of the need spectrum, he needs more and I need less. The compromise is difficult.

 

[roamingfree]

He insists that if I don't feel I can talk to him on a bad day then he doesn't want me to talk to anyone else that day either (except my psychiatrist). I feel, I don't know, blackmailed? Pressured? Am I being unreasonable? Do I put on a happy face and talk, so I can maybe go and have a coffee with a friend when I feel better, without him hitting the ceiling?

Hi, I'm new here and do not claim any answers. I know that my DB often does not want to talk to me, just because he knows I'll take things to heart, not because he doesn't want to talk to ME per se. You should be able to talk to anyone whenever it suits you to feel good and helps you. I don't believe that in any relationship either party should dictate something like this, unless it's detrimental. I rather he talk to one of his buddies he trusts and talk things out for hours even, than isolate and mull over things himself. It's for his benefit and I see the difference when he comes back to me. It helps him a lot.

 

[Jimmy1]

Hey roaming free, I think you might have the wrong forum. If you are a supporter or partner, then you should try the PTSD Forum. https://www.myptsd.com

Same login details. Just look for the supporters forum.

Unless of course you are a veteran yourself and have PTSD as a direct result of combat.

If you are only a supporter, feel free to roam and read, but if you post you will be banned.

Cheers

 

[roamingfree]

ok, thank you. didn't know about no posting, but makes sense.