Poll Am I Dirty? - A Poll

[Deleted member 28812]

I would not sleep in a bed which a cat has used as toilet.

 

[Sandstone]

I'm not convinced my mother is wholly…. balanced


My first thought was to discharge myself from hospital and go home to sort it out. This may have been her aim. In the end I got my heroic best friend to go round and remove the offending duvet, fortunately before the urine had penetrated the mattress protector.

 

[WildMermaid]

Wow did I ever misunderstand this poll! :wideeyed: I thought it meant in the psychological never feeling clean after what happened sense. :oops: lol... I would have trouble sleeping on a bed with peanut butter on it, and I would change the sheets. At the same time, I've not been to have a shower today as I hurt too much to get into it. So I feel a bit dirty. :unsure::wtf:

 

[Fearless]

I have OCD and my partner has PTSD. When I first developed OCD and it got really bad (oh what a nightmare that was for us both), I was really freaked out by germs and asked him to wash everything to an extreme. I asked all our laundry to be washed 2-3 times and stuff like that. Needless to say, him trying to take care of me while he was dealing with PTSD was really hard. But anyway! I would say try to get him to do the laundry if he wants it done a certain way. I know this might not be easy/possible because at least with my partner, chores really stress him out, so this might not be possible. But, I think its worth trying. If this is some kind of OCD tendency, I think it would help dampen it. When my partner made me responsible for the laundry, it was easier on both of us in the long run. I was very pretty resistant to it at first, but having to do the work required for my unusually high standards of cleanliness made me have to weigh the consequences more ("is following this ritual really worth spending the extra time and effort, or can I go without it this time?"). And if my anxiety about the germs was bad enough, I did wash it 2-3 times! But at least there were no more fights about it and he didnt have to suffer for my standards.

 

[Deleted member 28812]

Do you still feel this kind of anxiety now or did it get better with time?

I did talk to my guy. I told him how much work everything is and that I was feeling demotivated by him constantly telling me how dirty I was. I think I noticed some kind of change in him since... but let's see what happens next.

 

[Fearless]

It definitely got better with time. It's not gone, but it's a lot less, and I can manage it way more effectively now than before. I did a lot of personal work to get the anxiety down though. Honey helped me when I was at my worst, but he also pushed me to take care of those things myself because it was weighing too heavily on him, and even though I kind of hated it, it helped a lot on the long run. If I was the one with PTSD, I don't know if it would have worked though.

 

[NoWhereKnowWhere]

I can't help but think if he doesn't like it he can wash the covers or what ever it is. This seems more like a controlling mechanism than a "trigger" which btw is soooo overused here (stressor maybe). Maybe he wants you busy all day everyday cleaning and stuff. You have a kid, well your home is never going to be a show home, and that's alright. You matter too in this relationship.

 

[Ronin]

I voted that option saying heck no, you aren't dirty; if things still stress him up that badly, there's still the option of doing laundry himself, to the quality he desires. It sounds it's been an issue for quite a while and the more mature thing would be not making it one in a way that stresses you up. Fingers crossed communication & cooperation on this goes better, Lemontree.

 

[Changing4Best]

I don't pay much attention to dirt. I wash my bed linens once a month or so, when I have a smaller load of stuff to wash and can fit them into it. I have a twin sized bed and live alone.

If I lived with someone who was a clean freak, I might wash them more often if that person sweats a lot or if he had a job where he would get dirty often. Personally, I don't come into much contact with dirt, nor do I sweat often either, so I don't see any need to wash them more often.