Dom Violence Am i responsible for getting my mother safe?

[Strangelongtrip]

I’m glad you have support but I’d suggest caution here - as the time comes closer for you to leave,...

Thank you for the advice! That's very true. I may just not tell her exactly the dates I move out, or the times, just to be safe. My brother is going to help me out with moving but I really don't have that much stuff to take and I have a small SUV so it'll fit it all in one trip!

 

[shimmerz]

I may just not tell her exactly the dates I move out,

I worry that by telling your mother you will be putting her in a bad position. Your father may well pressure her into telling. I would get out first - and even let your mom know that you aren't going to tell her for her own protection.

 

[scout86]

About the phone number..... I get why it's a problem, I've got a small business too & changing my number would be a pain. I HAVE switched phone companies and was able to take my number with me. Your situation is different, because you're on someone else's plan right now, but have you asked if you can keep the number? The worst they can do is say "No".

 

[Strangelongtrip]

About the phone number..... I get why it's a problem, I've got a small business too & changing my numbe...

Yeah I can if I pay the $2000 bill my dad hasn't paid lol :banghead:

I don't even know what to do anymore because I'm not making enough money, so it may all be pointless lol. I need to be making way more to move out and I don't know what to do at all.

I had thought this one client was real but it was a scam :(

 

[EveHarrington]

At $2,000 I'm surprised they haven't already shut down your service! At some point it will be a moot point and you'll be forced to get a new number anyway. Better to be proactive and just do it rather than deal with a gap of having no phone service at all. At least the bill is under his name so its his credit going down the toilet, not yours.

 

[Chris-duck]

Can you not get a pay as you go phone? They don't tend to even ask your name here if you're buying one so credit and old numbers wouldn't be an issue

 

[leslie82]

I think a different phone company would let you transfer your number if you explain the situation. I am surprised as well with $2000 bill it's not shut off all of them.

You're an adult right? You are free to leave your parents house. He can't stop you. If you really want, you can have police there just so nothing escalates. If he wants to badmouth your business let him. Your customers know better and you could potentially sue him for slander if he did.

You can leave at any time. Nothing holds you there but you. Your mother is different but she has to wake up. My mom is in an abusive relationship. She actually left my dad (who is an amazing guy) for this POS right before I went to college and had an affair with him from 5 until I was 18. Now she realizes she made a mistake. But she won't leave and I have told her she can come live with me and she won't. He doesn't physically abuse her anymore but he gaslights the shit out of her and emotionally abuses her. He blames her for everything and blames my dad that we don't like him. He even talks shit about me for some reason. Whatever. I'm pretty damn close to going up there and having a face to face with him though. I think he doesn't hit her because my youngest brother (who is biologically his but we didn't know til he was 12) is an adult, bigger than him and would kick his ass if he did. (He lives in the same town as our mom).

I was also in an abusive relationship. I don't know how after I had a decent male role model but eh. I finally woke up after five years (one year married) and left for good last year. I gave him chances after the divorce like a moron and blamed it on his addiction. But he's a POS like my mom's husband. Thankfully he's in jail again.

You need to figure out how you're going to leave and just do it. Forget the phone. Forget all that. You can figure it out. Find someone to handle the business for a little bit. Tell your customers. You can work it out - and direct your mother to resources.