Analyzing Dreams and Uncovering the Subconscious Mind : Analyzing Dreams and Uncovering the Subconsc

[Seeking_Nirvana]

Hi xxarmywife, welcome to the group.

Tammy

 

[xxarmywifexx]

Hi Tammy,

I wanted to ask you if dreaming about ex-lovers mean that you are unhappy with your current relationship?

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

Hi, not necessarily. Dreaming about ex's could mean there are unresolved issues with those people, or it could mean that you lack intimacy in your current relationship. These are the two usual reasons ex's show up in dreams, but there could be other reasons.

Dreams are tricky most of the time, so you always have to make sure the interpretation resonates with you. If you think your unhappy because your dreaming about your ex's, it could just be that you need more attention from your current partner. If so, those dreams most likely will subside once you get the attention you are needing.

I don't think anyone is satisfied with their current relationship 100% of the time.

Take care
Tammy

 

[xxarmywifexx]

*sigh*

Yea, I don't like dreaming about that person. He wasn't good to me. I was really worried about this. Thanks :)

xxarmywifexx

 

[Awakening]

What does it mean to see numbers in your dreams.

I had a dream that left me with a wonderful comforting feeling.

Initially I was feeling troubled and I was wondering somewhat aimlessly around a city when I came across a church. There were a number of doors to choose from. I heard the voice of the Priest or God? tell me to walk through door number 4, which I did and instantly knew I had bene directed correctly & by someone who cared because I felt such calm & peace.

And the voice told me this particular issue behind door number 4 had now been resolved and I no longer needed to worry about this or give it any more attention.

It was a lovely dream but I wondered about the significance of number 4.

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

Hi Awakening. This dream is complex and personal. I think it's something only you can figure out. The good thing is that it seems to be telling you that something has been resolved and you don't have to pay attention to it anymore.

If you think about your overall situation, then ask yourself; "What has been resolved in my life"? If you come up with an answer see if it relates to the number 4 in anyway.

One thought could be that your thinking more in logical terms as apposed to emotional. Here are some symbols that have to do with the number 4.

The cross (four points) made it an outstanding symbol of wholeness and universality, a symbol which drew all to itself, where lines of latitude and longitude intersect, they divide the earth into four proportions

Many things are arranged in fours. There are four suits in a deck of cards, four points of the compass, and four phases of the moon. There are four wings on a bee and four leaves on a clover. The four seasons are spring, summer, autumn and winter.

You may not figure it out anytime soon or it may come to you when you least expect it to. I'm sorry that I can't give a reading on it, and I don't feel comfortable guessing.

Take care
Tammy

 

[Awakening]

Thanks Tammy.
I think it has something to do with fertility and the anxieties I had about that. I'm not sure how it's connected to 4 though.
On an entirely different note, I now have my bad dreams back. This is because of the anticipation of doing the exposure therapy about my abuse.
Yet, they are not nightmares as thankfully I don't get the strong reactions I used to.
But they do affect my ability to sleep and they do raise some ugly & shameful feelings.
I'm going to put this out there even though it's shameful surely I'm not the only one with dreams like this.
I dream about being sexually abused by old men, my father & my husband none of which have abused me in anyway.
The disturbing part is that in the dream there is a physical (body) response to the abuse but my brain in the dream is ashamed, mortified, trapped. The physical response does not carry over into my actual body if that makes sense, it's entirely in the dream.
Part of me always feels sickened by this because I'm dreaming it, and it's just a dream right?
But then I try & rationalise it by telling myself it's just my body & minds way of processing the trauma.
Am I only the one?

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

Hi Awakening, Maybe you should PM me because I'm not sure I understand what your saying. You have a body response to the abuse in the dream, so does this mean orgasm? or fear, fight flight? But you then say the physical response does not carry over into your actual body. Maybe you could give me an example or explain it better. Sorry I don't understand.

I will put this out here just to let you know not to worry about what ever it is that you're going through. I've had dreams of being raped, and then while being raped I turned around and want to have sex with the person (not always but it has happened).

The reason for this is that I do not have any sexual desires while awake because I've learned to repress those desires. However, this is an instinctual urge that all humans have and while dreaming our inhibitions are lowered, and the instinct takes over.

Remember dreams are rarely literal, and usually symbolic for something else. Dreaming about instinctual urges is complicated and dreams can be tricky. For instance, when I was anorexic I was dreaming about eating lots of food one time, and then the next dream I would be declining and making excuses not to eat. It all depends on whats in your mind at the time of the dream.

Take care
Tammy

 

[Awakening]

I mean that in the dream I'm physically enjoying the 'abuse', 'sex act' whatever term to use, but no I don't feel it in my sleep or anything.

And even though in the dream I'm physically - enjoy is the wrong word - more physically willinging to do the act, my mind is not.

But when waking I'm grossed out that I was even physically willinging to go there.

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

I can give you some thoughts as to why this is happening.

I had something similar to this dream. I dreamed that I was being raped, and I just quit resisting and gave in, and let it happen (no body feelings in this dream). This was because I didn't want to get beat up in the dream and figured if I just let it happen then the guy would like me and I wouldn't be beat up. Also, I thought he wouldn't try to rape me in the future if we became friends. There was a feeling that I wanted to make him (I don't know who he was) happy and be his friend. I think on a subconscious level we all want to be accepted and liked even by people who hurt us.

In dream land our inhibitions are lowered and we are likely to do all types of things that we normally wouldn't do while awake.

So maybe you want to quit fighting the thoughts of abuse while awake, and just let it go (accept it) and this is how it is revealing itself through your dream. Of course your going to think "yuck" when you wake because your waking mind is different than your dreaming mind.

I think your learning to let it go in waking life and therefore you let it happen while dreaming. It's not such a big issue to you anymore. But the dreams are freaking you out which will make it a big issue again if you let it. Don't do this to yourself! It doesn't have to be like this. Your not doing it while awake so why get all worked up over a dream that doesn't mean what it says or shows?

Please remember that dreams are not literal. I deal with these horrible images too, but I know they don't mean what I see. Even if I can't figure the dream out I just let it go because if I dwell on it, then it will produce more bad images and cause me to have nightmares.

So I don't dwell on it and as a result I don't have many bad dreams or nightmares anymore (I barely remember one dream a weak and it's not a bad image, just stupid stuff). I know it's easier said than done, but once you really understand that these dreams are a symptom of your abuse like hyperviglance, stress, flash backs insecurities etc then maybe you can just say, "OK this is just another symptom like all of the others, and accept it, then let it go"

I hope I answered your question? If not, then I'm not sure.

Take care
Tammy

 

[Awakening]

Beautifully answered, thanks Tammy!

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

I'm taking a break from the group for awhile so if you have a dream you want to share I will read it when I return.

Tammy