Hey William, its ok for us all to kick each other in the arse and tell each other to harden up sometimes, but in reality its ok to be angry, its a natural emotion. Its the cause and effect that needs to be relevant to each other and what we need to learn now we have the demon living with us for the rest of our lives.
To explain more, your child leaves their shoes in the way of where you walk does not warrant a furious outburst.
The old saying a straw that broke the camels back comes to mind. That is where we have let our stress bucket get the better of us. When I first did the anger management side of the PTSD course I laughed when they said I would be able to tame it. Well, the majority of the time if I can escape and evade the situation for a few deep breaths, I am fine, but it still gets out of control from time to time. What I am trying to say is that the anger has to be proportionate to the cause. So fair enough if somebody calls you an arsehole down the local bar and takes a swing at you, its then proportionate to hit back. But someone cutting you off in traffic does not warrant a tirade.
There was also a book I read called 'Be Angry But Don't Blow It'.
So William, its ok to be angry mate, just control the outcome. I know its hard when confrontation happens and what we were taught in the military does not help either. When we get to maximum stress they taught us to use our anger to push through. Well we can't do that any more.
Is any of this making sense???
