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anthony
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BT, I really must give you praise for your strength and sheer ability to rationalize a situation that most would not, instead as no doubt your well aware, simply exert anger towards your partner, frustration, etc etc... the sheer pain caused. I honestly think its great that you are both so willing to work through your issues, but most importantly, its not about working on self issues, but knowing you do still love one another. That is where I have known from my past relationships, that love was lost, and that is a sign to say it is gone, it never really was true, so to speak. I am envious of people such as yourself that can keep things together even when presented with the worse... congratulations, and extremely well done on your behalf. I know I could certainly learn from you, no doubt many others here.
I know what you mean about children also, in that even though people have children, it doesn't mean they wanted them to begin with. But the more important aspect I guess, is that once you have them, you love them and take care of them until they leave and want to tackle life themselves. I think I was like that with my first, Logan, where I didn't really want kids, actually I know I didn't want kids, yet I remained in that relationship because of him for 10 years, until I realized that the only reason I was there was for him, which was not a good enough reason to remain in a relationship, simply going through the motions daily. I definately wanted my next two though, and love them to bits and pieces. I quite honestly believe those two will grow into very mature adults who strive for excellence. I didn't really want a child I guess with Logans mother, because she's not the best genetically IMHO... where she even stated to me, "Logans not the brightest in the pack" and worked on that theory to stop supporting him going forward. A hard fight for me basically when he wants to give up, and his mother backs him giving up... go figure.
Yes, I do understand though from my own feelings in this matter. Love them all though... regardless now.
I know what you mean about children also, in that even though people have children, it doesn't mean they wanted them to begin with. But the more important aspect I guess, is that once you have them, you love them and take care of them until they leave and want to tackle life themselves. I think I was like that with my first, Logan, where I didn't really want kids, actually I know I didn't want kids, yet I remained in that relationship because of him for 10 years, until I realized that the only reason I was there was for him, which was not a good enough reason to remain in a relationship, simply going through the motions daily. I definately wanted my next two though, and love them to bits and pieces. I quite honestly believe those two will grow into very mature adults who strive for excellence. I didn't really want a child I guess with Logans mother, because she's not the best genetically IMHO... where she even stated to me, "Logans not the brightest in the pack" and worked on that theory to stop supporting him going forward. A hard fight for me basically when he wants to give up, and his mother backs him giving up... go figure.
Yes, I do understand though from my own feelings in this matter. Love them all though... regardless now.
