Answer Me This With The Truth

[atwistedfate]

Do you really want to talk to an obnoxious (p-word) who thinks he has the right to tell you how...

Lol yes missus

 

[Chimera]

You trusting him isn't a fault, him abusing that trust is...please don't be confused.

 

[atwistedfate]

You trusting him isn't a fault, him abusing that trust is...please don't be confused.

Not confused just pissed

 

[Sideways]

Okay, awesome. Right there. Trust.

He judged you. You trusted him, and his judgment blew your trust.

Maybe your sense of self-worth is tied to the judgments being made about you, which heads down the path of self-esteem.

Maybe you copped a lot of criticism when you were younger from the people you were supposed to trust, which makes this a core "trust" issue - I can't afford to trust people, because they might judge me badly. That's not true. Some people have judged you badly, and they are untrustworthy. But other people around you are judging you all the time. All you need to do is find one person who knows you, who is trustworthy, and the "everyone always picks me apart" becomes "some people pick me apart and it hurts when they do".

If you pick it apart, yeah this guy has been hurtful, but the issue is bigger than him, and what he said and did. Knowing that can often be helpful to letting the bad moments (and the @rses of the world) come and go, without holding us up and destroying our day.

This guy? Pfft, he doesn't matter. Thought he mattered, clearly he doesn't, watch him occupy no more of my valuable energy.

But the beliefs you have about yourself and the world, the beliefs that he's brought to the surface, they matter a lot. Direct your angry energy at them, because that's where it's going to serve you, rather than bring you down.

 

[Mytime]

Sounds like you had a pretty shitty day. I agree about everyone has an opinion. This friend at work, a close friend? Is he sharing his opinion because he cares about you? Could it be his way of looking out for you. Or do you feel he is just being a d*ck? There is always people being judgemental, everywhere we go. But how you deal with it is up to you. I myself think your a great person, your very supportive. You have supported me and others in chat. If something, that somebody's has said bugs me. I will sit with it to see why it is bugging me. I hope you are feeling better tonight. I send you big :hug:'s

 

[atwistedfate]

He's being a dick lol think he needs to get laid..... Oh wait that's against his religon

 

[Sideways]

"Think he needs to get laid" - perfect example of healthy, cathartic judgment;)

 

[atwistedfate]

Okay, awesome. Right there. Trust.

He judged you. You trusted him, and his judgment blew you...

Thank you

 

[atwistedfate]

"Think he needs to get laid" - perfect example of healthy, cathartic judgment;)

Lol I know

 

[scout86]

said that the way I am living my life is wrong and that if I don't change he won't talk to me.

You know, once upon a time, when I was in the middle of trying to mess up my life (again) a person who actually WAS a friend, said "If you keep doing what you're doing, you're going to die. Frankly, you're scaring me." And he was a pretty tough dude that I didn't actually think COULD be scared. I didn't change anything right then, but he did kind of get my attention.

So, I don't know what you're doing with your life, or why he said what he said, but, if you've been thinking of him as a friend, you might want to consider what his reasons actually were for saying what he said. Sometimes our friends are the people who care enough to tell us things we don't want to hear. Sometimes the people who tell us things we don't want to hear are wrong too. Just suggesting you might want to think about it.

 

[atwistedfate]

You know, once upon a time, when I was in the middle of trying to mess up my life (again) a person who...

Hmmmmm might have to think on that

 

[Stickler]

...hmm...
Did it feel like it was said out of caring for you? Even misguided caring for your well being?

Or just more like " You're weird. You stop being weird right now or I won't talk to you anymore..." (Imagine Cartman from South Park saying this...)

...I bug you about drinking...I just don't want your innards getting pickled. They won't work well if pickled. Not judgy.