Anxiety (or Flashback?) After Making Appointment With Divorce Attorney

[wallflower]

I called a divorce lawyer today and talked to her assistant who took basic information and set up a meeting. Afterward, I sunk completely into an anxiety attack. My heart was beating like crazy and I felt like I was going to break down in tears. I was able to sit at my desk and focus (sort of) on some busy work. I'm not sure how long it lasted, but when I got up and walked to the restroom, I noticed I had sweaty armpits (which I never get).

I realized when this happened that it was fear. I fear my husband finding out about it or what his reaction will be when I tell him. I've never experienced this before and I don't know where it came from (husband or other past events).

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Hi Wallflower,

I am sad that you are going through this experience because it is a lengthy process and has so much involved in it. You did'nt give much detail. Am I understanding you right that your husband does'nt know you are filing for a divorce?

Do you still live together or are you seperated? How long has this been going on?

Is your husband abusive? Are you seeing a therapist? Do you have anyone to help and to support you through this? I have so many questions. It seems that you need to feel safe. So whatever you can do that makes you feel safe would be good. You are not alone. Please keep on talking about it and get the poison out. Take care.