Relationship Any Advice On Helping My Vet Get Back To Therapy?

[A13]

Hi guys.
So my partner who sufferers combat PTSD and desprssion has been going through a bit of a rough time lately. He's fallen off the wagon with seeing his T and isn't going to the gym (which usually makes a huge difference to his moods)
I suggested non directly about starting again.. or about coming to workout together or if I needed to get his T a little xmas gift (to see if he planned to see him again before Christmas but neither really encouraged him.)

Is there a way I can encourage him without him lashing out at me or should I just let him figure it out naturally that he needs to go back? I just know he really benefits from both, especially seeing his T..

I'm not sure if this is the type of thing he needs to figure out for himself?

 

[Sweetpea76]

I don't know... I wish I did. If I try to offer advice about his treatment or medications, my vet will tear my head off. I just have to let him do him, so to speak.

This is one of those "no control" things about being a supporter. You can't make your partner seek treatment or take his meds.

 

[BuckarooBanzai]

There is a VA call-in center for vet supporters. Did you know that?

I called once because a vet friend was in crisis but wouldn't get help. They assigned me a doctoral-level clinical psychologist for me to talk with over the phone and be in contact with via email. He was extremely helpful - and it was all FREE.

Star here: Veterans Crisis Line | Suicide Prevention Hotline, Chat, & Text

Tell them your get loved one needs therapy but you are having a hard time convincing him to go.

 

[A13]

@BuckarooBanzai
I didn't know that. Thanks for the advice!!!! :)

 

[Sweetpea76]

I would think long and hard about calling the VA on him without his permission if he isn't in immediate danger or suicidal... or it's equivalent in the U.K.

 

[BuckarooBanzai]

Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't realize you are in the UK! I provided a US link. :(

 

[A13]

That's ok. I 'googled' the uk equivalent
Thank you again

 

[NaeNae75]

When I see mine derailing, I ask him when his last appointment was. But, we made an agreement when we were both in a goid place on how to do that. I will ask him, then he will ask why I brought it up, I will tell him I just see he hasn't been talking about it and things I notice.

But, he does it for me too. We both have PTSD, and have discussed that it's okay to hold each other accountable before yhings get "really bad".

I suppose every one us different, but if you approach him with love and concern in a respectful way instead of as a "judgement " he may be receptive. You know him best....but isn't an insult as far as I'm concerned.