Arrrgh...

[DarkOne35]

Hey everyone.... Recently I accepted my mother's request to be friends on facebook, and you know, on some days I feel like crap, so I post a meme about how I am feeling and then she messages me about it... Okay, fine... No big deal, right!? But then... She asks me to take it down! And to me, this is going waay too far. I don't know if there is a privacy feature where you can choose only certain people to see your story on messenger?! Anyway.... What do I do? Right now I am taking a break from messenger and she keeps inboxing me and it is getting really annoying. How do I handle this? I like to take a break from talking to people from time to time and it is really annoying me that she thinks I am supposed to just drop everything all the time to talk to her on messenger, and it's like.... I HAVE A LIFE TOO!!! I HAVE CHILDREN TO CARE FOR! I HAVE A HUSBAND! I AM ALSO SICK!!! Like.. WHY CAN'T YOU JUST MESSAGE ME ONCE AND THEN WAIT FOR ME TO GET BACK TO YOU!? ARRRRGH!!!

 

[DharmaGirl]

Some people seem to think that sending a message is like a phone call. My mother used to say, "The phone is your servant" Meaning you don't have to answer just because it rings. I can't believe she asks you to take down stuff. I would tell her that if it upsets her to see these things on Facebook, maybe she should unfriend you. This is YOUR Facebook, not hers. You have every right to put up what you want. She sounds like she is trying to control you, I would just let her know that it is not working out and unfriend her.

 

[DarkOne35]

Some people seem to think that sending a message is like a phone call. My mother used to say, "The p...

Thanks. I will think about unfriending her because it is really getting on my last nerve and I don't need the extra stress.

 

[Justmehere]

Have you tried setting boundaries with her on this issue? She may think she’s being helpful.

I’d suggest letting her know that you won’t be talking to her about your FB posts via messenger and that you need the number of messages from her on FB to be less. I wouldn’t rant at her or get into a long drawn out thing. Be matter of fact and just let her know what you can and can’t do.


If that doesn’t work, there is an option to ignore someone on messenger. (https://medium.com/@chibicode/faceb...gnore-messages-from-your-friends-1dd8ec4fd28b)

 

[EveHarrington]

Can’t you just ignore her?

I mean like not look at her messages.

 

[jmad]

Setting boundaries are important for your, and also, for the mental health of others. Sadly, many people have a hard time understanding mental illness. People also have their own reasons - not all of them healthy - for why they respond to "negative" sentiments. It is hard to tell. But it is imperative to set boundaries for your own well-being, which seems like the case here.

 

[DarkOne35]

Can’t you just ignore her?

I mean like not look at her messages.

Yeah... I archived her messages for now until I am ready to pick back up here I left off. I also unfriended her on fb because it is too much for me to deal with.