Attachment Issues

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sometimes that folks post without the backdrop, .

I agree that that happens. Can't see how that is relevant here though as I know that Solara, you and myself have all been on reds posts.

I can't think of any situation that would have developed in her quiet gap that would change things enough. Other than the every day calls only being a few days which seems unlikely.

I haven't seen her in 3 weeks and I miss her so bad.

But this is the real crux of this and has been missed a little maybe. Red's, I think you just accept it will hurt a lot. It's normal in the context of your relationship and what you are dealing with for it to hurt.

Maybe just allow yourself to feel the pain and be patient with yourself. It will get better and emotional pain can't kill us even if it feels it will. What you are dealing with abandonment pain and that is hard.

 

[Reds]

I have been reading your posts, but things were not easy so I didn't want to respond while in a bad state emotionally.

I have emailed my t about this but I will not send her the link to this thread, that would mean she will have access to all my posts :nailbiting:. So I am waiting for her to reply.

I am also with my family for the holidays and will be leaving next saturday, so I thought I should go see her before I leave. It is a bit of a drive but a part of me really needs to just see her.

Things are really hard for me these days, maybe this week will be better.

 

[Abstract]

You are very brave Reds. If it helps someone can only look at three things before they are excluded from the site. Unless they join and you could ask her not to join here. From what you have said in the past she seems like an honest person and I am sure wouldn't do anything you don't want. The only important thing is that you have a dialogue about this. She can just hate me for what I said! :D