Relationship Big Shock Tonight

[Nicolette]

I didn't take what you posted as animosity either PTSDT. It's just you are posting in the Carers' section and I felt, based on all what Jawn has done and is going through, that it lost focus on what he was going through too. We appreciate Sufferers sharing as that is how we learn and I commended you on your ability to articulate it well.

My reaction was identifying with what Jawn would be going through so I felt compelled to share a Carer's side.

We sit on different sides of the fence trying to head in the same direction together. :rolleyes:

 

[seedling]

My only other thought about your holiday situation, Jawn, is that you had a right to have your wife be honest with you about whether she was coming or not. I understand it was difficult for her to say no to you, but she probably knew she just couldn't do it when you called her when you were on your way there.

I think it's fair to ask her to be as honest as possible with you on these things as it hurts you.

 

[Jawn]

Thanks seedling. I agree with you and that's what bothered me the most was she told me one thing and then called and told her sister she wasn't coming. If she had just told me she couldn't go, I would have felt better about things and would have known how to handle myself at the gathering. Or I could have skipped it and spent the day watching TV with my wife. I will mention this to her at some point.

Jawn

 

[Tinyflame]

Dear Jawn, I'm sorry it didn't go as you had hoped.

This is likely obvious but I think she couldn't bear to say it to you.

 

[Jawn]

Junebug you are probably correct. Maybe she will talk to me about it in a few days. I did see her at the clinic when I took a dog in for a blood draw. She thanked me for picking up some stuff from her and for bringing some stuff to her too. I also got a hug as I was leaving. She seemed like she was very upbeat today. Of course I hope that's a trend that continues! :)

Now if I could only make progress on the bedroom. There are a couple pieces of big stuff I need help to move out and all of my neighbors are not home and none of the other locals I know are answering their phone. Sigh. I guess I just need to cut the carpet around those items until I get help tomorrow. LOL! Little islands of carpet! HA!

Jawn

 

[Jawn]

OK, I finally decided at 10pm that it smelled like time for a shower. ;)

Everything is out of the bedroom and the carpet has been ripped out too. Some of the pad is out, but I will do the rest of it and the tack strips in the morning. Then I will prep the floor and start putting down the rest of the floor. Hopefully I can get it done (except for trim) tomorrow. I will be on the air mattress tonight and maybe for a couple of nights.

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I was able to get the rest of the big stuff moved out because I finally found someone that was home and they came to help me. Pretty nice of him too 'cause he was out with his family and he took the time to drive the 30 miles to my house and help me. It was nice to see his wife and daughter because I haven't seen them in a long time.​

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I'm wiped out, but my brain is still going going going going,...... HA! Thinking about how to do the flooring. I hope I don't dream about it! :)​

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Jawn​

 

[Tinyflame]

All those thoughts.. now I understand your picture ;)

 

[Jawn]

Nice picture eh, Junebug? :)

OK this morning I am officially tired. I guess carrying out those rolls of carpet took more out of me than I thought. But I must carry on and get the floor prepped and start laying the new flooring. I did talk to a guy we have used for home improvement projects in the past about coming out to put on the trim for me. There are a couple of short walls that have rounded corners (bullnose corners) and he knows how to cut trim to go around those corners. I would waste a lot of material trying to get that right. He will be here in the morning before I go to work to look at it and measure stuff. He said the trim should only take him 1 day and he has free time in his schedule right now. Phew! That will be nice and then I can start moving stuff back in a little at a time each night after work.

I also decided that if I don't get all of the flooring put down today that I will see if he will finish it for me too. Will be extra money out of my pocket, but well worth it since I am running so far behind schedule. Actually, he's in his 70's and just does projects like this to keep busy and earn spending money, so his rates are pretty reasonable.

I guess I'd better get busy.

Jawn

 

[AdamAnt]

JAwn....you went 30 miles away, ran into some guy out with his family and talked him into coming back to your house to move furniture?

If you aren't in sales then you missed your callin', bud! HA!(:

 

[Jawn]

ROFL! AdamAnt you're a funny guy. ;)

Well I got the pad ripped out and all the tack strips up today. I then prepped the floor and started putting in the new flooring. This stuff goes pretty fast until you need to cut something, like the hole for a vent, etc. I got the sitting room/office area done and about 1/2 of the bedroom. About 5pm I called Dale who is coming out tomorrow to measure for trim and asked if he was busy tomorrow. He said he had a couple of errands, but nothing very important. So we talked about the flooring and he's bringing his tool belt with him. Hopefully he will have it done tomorrow.

I called my wife at the vet clinic late this morning and told her I wasn't bringing her the newspaper and a latte today because I was working on the floor. She laughed and then asked how far I had gotten on the floor. She said she was looking forward to seeing the finished floor.

Jawn

 

[anni]

I don't mean to intrude on your thread, Jawn but can't help noticing the 'tired' notation under your username. Ahem. I just do not know how you do it! On top of being here at all hours of the day and night ( I've been a 'guest' at 2 a.m., reading articles ), I'd think you WOULD be tired, Good Grief! I also had to laugh at the thought of those little island carpets a few post back there- just a funny, funny, image.

And Adam's post just made me scare the dog laughing.

 

[Jawn]

A question here for you folks. If you remember back a month or so in this thread I mentioned painting a saying on a piece of wood and giving it to my wife at some point. I have all the materials, but I haven't actually made the sign yet. Would making this as her Christmas gift be too much pressure for her? The saying is

Loved you yesterday,
Love you still,
Always have & always will


After what happened on Thanksgiving I am thinking about just giving her something very simple, like gift cards for latte's or maybe pay for a couple of visits to her claw shop (manicure). I'm thinking that maybe keeping it very low key might be the way to go. Any thoughts? I do plan on asking my T about it in my next session.

I have also found some patterns for making images to put in the yard. Basically you lay them on a sheet of plywood, trace them, and cut it out. Typically you then paint them black. Some of the more common shapes are of cowboys and such, but I also found one for 3 little dachshund dogs. Maybe making those so she can put them in the yard at her place would be a good gift. Our dogs are dachshunds, so I know she would like them. Who knows, she might even want to put them in the yard at home! ;)

Jawn