Relationship Big Shock Tonight

[Iam]

I am so glad you two had a good time today Jawn ;o) Things sound so hopeful. How was Friday night? It must have been fun to catch up with your old friend too!

 

[Jawn]

Me too Iam, me too!

Catching up with my old friend was great. I saw her about 10 yrs after we graduated and not since then and we're approaching the 30 yr reunion. Most people in my class were some what close since there were only 29 people in the class. We had dinner and talked for about 4-5 hours. It was a fun time and I'm glad I made the effort to go see her.

 

[Jawn]

Another good day!

:smile: Well last night was another good day. My wife was at the house house when I got home. She was in the garage vacuuming out her car and in my normal smart ass way, I said "are you gonna vacuum mine too?" I expected a smart answer or a no, but she said sure. So I went in the house and fixed dinner while she was working on the cars. She stayed for dinner and we were able to chat lightly and laugh a bit. We also talked about where to meet to go to Oktoberfest on Friday to work our shift.

She also noticed a few things I've changed around the house and commented on them in a positive way. It was a good evening, although it was hard watching her drive out after dinner. Time, space, and most of all patience is needed here I think.

Thanks,

Jawn

 

[amethist]

Your doing fine Jawn, well in the way you are excepting all that is going on when your wife is around.

But how are you seriously when she is leaving and has left. Are you doing all you should to take care of your own mental and physical health. I hope you are doing the best you can, you can let loose here if you ever need to.

Hang in there and enjoy those times together with an open mind, no expectations just yet. But with the knowledge that she is still surprising you in a good way, with all she is doing.

Hope you have a great time on Friday, and not just because you will be working together.

Amethist

 

[Jawn]

For the most part I am doing OK Amethist. There are times where I break down for a bit, but I am keeping busy and trying to do a lot of the stuff my T and I discussed. I am going to dance lessons tonight, so that should be fun. My wife and I originally met dancing and we used to do lessons and such. But that stopped several years ago and I want to get back into it. I told my wife about going to the lesson and she looked at me kinda funny and then told me to enjoy myself. I may ask her if she wants to come to the lessons in a couple of weeks or so. Really, she is the dancer, not me, so I think it surprised her when I told her my plans.

A friend of mine is trying to organize a group trip to Las Vegas in a month or so, so I may tag along on that and have fun. I don't gamble, but I love wandering around Vegas just checking out the sites and all the people blowing their money. :smile:

I also told my wife last night I was going to take a couple of days off soon and start tearing the carpet out of the master bedroom and put in the new flooring we bought a while back. She offered to come help with the project which surprised me a bit.

All in all, I am hanging in there and doing the stuff my T has coached me on when I start feeling down.

Jawn

 

[Iam]

Jawn, You are an inspiration! I am happy that your wife is choosing to spend time with you. That says so much good about your relationship. Your patience is showing her how much you love and want the best for her.

Do you know which bar you are working at Friday night and what time. I'll probably come out for a bit. It would be nice to meet you and your wife ;o)

 

[Jawn]

Thanks Iam. I won't know which bar until I show up for my shift on Friday (8pm - Midnight).

Jawn

 

[Jawn]

Unless things change again, my wife starts EMDR tomorrow morning. Saying my prayers and keeping my fingers (& toes) crossed!

Jawn

 

[Nicolette]

Sounds like things are going very well for you Jawn - including you great attitude!

 

[AdamAnt]

Fantastic Jawn. I know it feels like you've taken a step backward, but from where I sit you're doing great...

You know I really do respect you Jawn, you're a class guy, and it's good to see the scales tipping in the favor of the worthy. So many times in this life they don't!!

 

[Jawn]

Thanks Nicolette and AdamAnt. I appreciate it and I hope that things keep moving in a good direction for me and my wife.

I'm hanging in there!

Jawn

 

[Jawn]

I went to the dance lesson tonight and had fun. It was a beginning lesson and even though I used to do this stuff, I really needed the beginning class. I was extremely rusty and messed up a bunch of times. Luckily my partner was a beginner, so it didn't matter much. I had fun and worked up a big time sweat. Not sure the partner liked that part of dancing with me! ;-)

Jawn