Relationship Big Shock Tonight

[Jawn]

LOL! seedling, a few years ago a friend of mine was doing some work for us with his excavator and he called to tell me the neighbors cow was out. He said "I have my deer rifle in the truck. I could put 1/2 the meat in your freezer and take the rest home. I can dig a big deep hole to dispose of the evidence!" I told him it was tempting, but not worth it. Good for a laugh though! :naughty:

I too look forward to the day I can post that Iam. You will hear my shouts of joy clear over on your side of the valley. :wink:
I agree that she shows a lot of desire in keeping up the yard and the inside of the house too. Stuff she has always enjoyed doing, although yes we complain about it too!

Thanks everyone!

Jawn

 

[Jawn]

On a positive note, the insurance company called today and said they agree the car is totaled. The best part is they offered more money for the car than I thought they would! So sometime next week I should get a check from them and be able to go car shopping. Oh the joys of car shopping! :smile:

Jawn

 

[James B.]

Glad to hear this Jawn. Best wishes finding a good replacement vehicle.

 

[bluecat]

Hi Jawn,

I haven't met you yet, but thank you for your support of my post the other day. I am sorry about the difficulties in your marriage and also your car accident.

You wrote in earlier posts that you started to see a therapist for yourself. Thats great for you and for your wife too. As a PTSD sufferer I get upset when people tell me how I should take care of myself (even though I know its meant well), but I find it VERY helpful to see people around me who care for their own needs. It motivates me to copy their good habits and I imagine it might work the same way for your wife too. She sounds like a strong-willed and independent person.

I admire your patience and faith in your marriage. Have hope, my best wishes,

Bluecat

 

[Jawn]

Iam, I am feeling better, but still sore. I was able to lay on my side for a while last night instead of just flat on my back. Advil seems to be working for the pain.

Thanks James. Hopefully I can find something decent.

Bluecat, your description of my wife is right on the money.

She sounds like a strong-willed and independent person.

She is VERY independent and strong willed is putting it mildly. :smile:

Jawn

 

[Deleted member 6617]

Hi Jawn,

Glad you are starting to feel better. I don't know what I would do if I couldn't sleep on my side...not sleep I guess. Glad you are able to get a bit more comfortable. Hey...and good news about the insurance. Hope you enjoy car shopping. Some people love it and love to negotiate....hope that you are one of those.

Night time cow herding by lawn mower. The newest rage I hear.... Thanks for the laugh that visual brought. Having grown up around cows and sheep, you would be amazed at the things we used to herd them or round them up. They always get out at the most inconvenient times ya know.

Sounds like you are doing okay. That is good news. I'm with Iam on looking forward to the post that she is home to stay. That will be a day to celebrate for sure. Until then, hand in there.

PH

 

[Jawn]

I saw my wife again tonight for a little while. She brought back a couple of dogs she took to her place to give me a bit of a break this week. While she was here I put in new cabin air filters in her car that she had bought. I also asked her about Thanksgiving and if she wanted me to be there. She said it was up to me, but she was fine with me being there. She said she told her sister it was OK to invite me and that we were getting along OK (no fighting).

We also talked about getting the money from insurance to get a replacement car. She wanted to know if I had figured out what "we" were getting or if I had even thought about it. I liked the "we" part because she emphasized that word.

It was nice to see her tonight and it sounds like I will see her this weekend too. Especially if we go car shopping together.

Jawn

 

[Jawn]

I went car shopping today and all I can say is it's always a painful experience....and I didn't even buy anything! LOL!

I went to the vet clinic where my wife was working today and traded her cars because her car is more economical to drive than my truck. I wasn't able to get back there before she got off work, so I ended up going by her place. We talked about what I had seen and liked today, and then we had dinner together. I did notice that the card I gave her about 10 days ago is still laying there unopened. That kinda bugs me, but maybe she feels like the card is pressuring her or something.

On a more positive note I noticed she had put out more pictures on her shelves in the hallway. One of them is our wedding picture. It's on the top shelf, so she would have to look up to see it, although it is at eye level for me. Seeing that picture made me feel really good tonight. So it was a good day. :smile:

Tomorrow is more car shopping and maybe taking my wife to see a few if I can narrow it down to just a couple of cars.

Jawn

 

[Iam]

I HATE car shopping....well maybe I like the idea finding a new car but I hate the buying process.

I'm glad that you and your wife worked out Thanksgiving and about the pictures! That sounds really hopeful ;o)

Good luck in your hunt tomorrow..hope you find the perfect car and a great price!

 

[Jawn]

Well I found a couple of maybe cars yesterday. I also got to see my wife for a few minutes as we traded vehicles again so that I could drive the more economical one. She sent me an email this morning that I should keep her car this week since I travel a lot further to work than she does and it would help with the fuel costs.

She also emailed me today to ask about Skype because her landlord sent her a Skype invitation. I explained what it was and I doubted they would let her use it at work, and with no internet at her house, she should tell the landlord no. She replied with "You make good points. Thanks 'hon!" So that put a smile on my face.

Of course I am a little nervous today. I put up the framed pictures of her and I from the cruise, and she will see it tonight when she takes care of the dogs. Hopefully it won't be a bad thing, but I really like having them on the wall. I guess I will find out tonight or maybe tomorrow what she thinks of the pictures.

Jawn

 

[seedling]

That's wonderful she's relying on your help and advice in things and wants to know what you think. I always feel those things as a kind of welcome security now - someone who's judgement I trust.

The card may just be a challenge for her, whatever the reason. She may need to feel ready to face whatever may be inside, she may only have the strength to do what she is doing already. The time will come for all things.

Good luck on the car.

 

[Jawn]

Yeah, I saw the card when I had dinner with her a few days ago. It was kinda comical because I was doing the cooking and when I turned around at one point she had laid something else over the top of the card. Then she was moving stuff to clear room on the counter. I noticed that she very carefully picked up the paper over the card and got the card underneath too. The card was maybe 1/2 the size of the paper covering it. It seemed she didn't want me to see she hadn't opened the card yet. I did figure she just wasn't ready to read it yet. Or maybe she forgot about it for a bit. :smile:

Jawn