Relationship Big Shock Tonight

[Jawn]

Well I am letting her keep her key until all of the stuff is out, but I did mention it again when she was there. And to answer your question, yes & no!

I know many times she is only there long enough to take care of the dogs, but other times she is packing stuff or making copies of old tax returns, etc.

I did get the Post Office Box key back, so I have to remember to go pick up the mail now.

 

[amethist]

Hope you don't leave it too long though Jawn.

Bad case scenario. You have a "Friend" to stay over, you go for milk or anything next morning, and in she walks.

Get the picture.

Amethist

 

[Nicolette]

Fact - I dated a guy whose ex had a key to his house & unbeknown to me wanted him one day, not the next.

One Saturday night after too many drinks she turned up in his bedroom where we both were 2am in the morning. Another time I got there to find a love note beside his bed which she left during the day. Other times she would ring up crying & he would go to see her despite my protest to such actions. It drove a wedge between our relationship & in the end I trusted neither of them. Didn't trust him as his words werent supported by his actions - not taking the key back (because it would upset her too much) was one of them!

 

[Learning123]

I still have a key to the home I shared with my ex, for the same reason Jawn, because we share animals. But there are clear boundaries and I always make sure that she knows when I will be there. In the early stages of a break up I think this can work with clear communication, however I can see it becoming more problematic when she meets someone else and at that point I would certainly accept that I will have to have more 'pre-arranged' visits with my pets. I would just say do what works for now, but set boundaries or at least arrange 'set' days when she can come and see the dogs or collect things.

 

[Jawn]

Well I got "papers" in the mail, so I guess the fun and games start now. Got a good attorney lined up, but am meeting with her this weekend to see if we can hammer out the details ourselves and just have an attorney write up the legal mumbo jumbo. Hopefully it will go well, if not the attorney starts getting paid.

She told me the only things we might not be able to agree on are the equity in the house and the amount for support. Of course I told her we could at least sit down and try which she agreed to. So say a prayer, voodoo chant, cross your fingers, or whatever you can to help it go smoothly.

 

[Nicolette]

Prayer, voodoo chant, crossed fingers (and toes) all coming from over here for you. Good luck Jawn.

 

[KP the nut]

So say a prayer, voodoo chant, cross your fingers, or whatever you can to help it go smoothly.

(((Jawn)))
Everything that can be crossed is (ouch, I'm too old to cross that bit

). Sending love and lots of positive thoughts from across the pond.

KP

 

[Jawn]

Well we meet later today to see if we can work out the details of how to split up our assets and such. Hopefully it will go OK and we won't need to run up a bunch of attorney fees. I am hoping that we can just write it all down and then have an attorney write it up on the correct legal fashion/forms and be done with it.

Thanks everyone!

Jawn

 

[Deleted member 6617]

Thinking of you Jawn! Sending prayers for a peaceful meeting.

 

[KP the nut]

((((Jawn))))
Good luck my friend - stay strong

 

[amethist]

I hope it goes well for you Jawn. Stress free and a good and if possible friendly meet up.

Amethist

 

[Cheshire]

Good luck to you Jawn, sending you strength xx