General Boyfriend Moving Out

[amethist]

Hi Vickym

Just read your post as i was going off line, i'm sorry for what is going on in your life now,but maybe you will be able to heal yourself a bit so as to be able to help him in the future if thats what he wants. You could now start doing things more for yourself, this may sound a bit harsh but this is what i am now doing, ok my hubby is still here but i have to put myself first and leave him to get on with it and take time out.

I am lucky as he does not blame me for what has happened to him.

I think i replied to one of your posts earlier so maybe what is appening is a good thing for you right now.

It will give you space to decide whats best for YOU.

I will catch up with you later, keep strong for you.

Amethist

 

[Vickym]

Thanks Amethist for your support and thoughts!

 

[fin]

Amethist I don't know if I can ever say thankyou to you enough.

This is so difficult to know how and what to do, and how much trauma plays a part in so many of my decisions, well all of our decisions here.

I hate PTSD and everything it has taken from me. I am so very not sure if I am perhaps doing the right thing in a particular area but at the same time, I am sure I must be. It is so difficult to just know and rest in somethings.

I hope you are having a good weekend and that the grass got cut, Thankyou for everything , every bit f advice you share here, it is greater than well I cant think of something big at the moment but I hope you know the place and the sentiment that comes with this post I am making a complete hash out of, Hah!!...

I hope that we can rise above being tested and tried and that whatever happens here we can know that we are learning and moving through each part of a process that will help us to manage and learn to live with PTSD. But again like metal or steel or whatever it is, we go through that will make us stronger from being in the flame like that metal thing...I dont know it tests and does something to make the steel or whatever it is harder and faster and stronger..

ok so I know I am waffling here now.. I am sorry for this. I am

Vickym take care of you, and have a good weekend, trust in the encouragement here it is a steely force ot be reckoned with perhaps. We are stronger the more we learn to manage and live PTSD does not have to take everything we have away from us. We can learn again and better how to decide what we can all do with what we have and the tools we have been given. I hope that my rambling has helped you some. Just know we can manage this, we can learn a better way perhaps to live now. But please take care of you, you are important and have to see yourself that way too.

Take care
~fin

 

[Nicolette]

He wants to leave most of his stuff here just take a few things. He says in time he will be back. Is this true? Or is it over.

Hi Vicky. I am sorry to hear things are not working out as well as you had hoped. While I understand from a PTSD point of view what you boyfriend is doing it would be most upsetting living that way. Especially not knowing when he will be back. IMHO, to be fair to you, you have to set a time limit for how much time you will wait and then make decisions accordingly. It's a bit like he wants his cake and eat it to at the moment and you are allowing that by letting him leave his things. If you are happy doing that well that is fine but you can't then look back and blame him for wasting your life if he doesn't come back. A relationship involves two people and PTSD or not your feelings matter to. I know I sound harsh but experience has taught me that at the end of the day, we have a responsibility to ourselves and our lives.

I would like to talk to some suffers to understand whats going on from the suffer point of view.

Why don't you think of what you want to know and post the question in Chat PTSD for sufferers to respond to. Remember however, while this can give you insight, you still have to do what is best for you as well.